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Crazy Tuesday


Howdy.

It has been a very unproductive day so far.

My cousin keeps letting his crazy stalker gal back into his life. Honestly, I think he likes knowing that there is someone out there who wants to be with him. She flipped out on him again so he blocked her on Facebook. This is at least the 5th time he's done this cycle.

Anyway, some gal he's never heard of asked to be his FB friend. She claims to have gone to school with him (us) but we don't remember her. Her first post was less than 24 hours ago. She only has two other friends (from our same town). HER MESSAGES ARE WRITTEN IN ALL CAPS WITH NO PUNCTUATION EXACTLY LIKE THE STALKER LADY

He asked my opinion. I told him to block this new gal and move on, its the stalker with a fake profile. He agreed with me, but yet keeps texting me all morning with why it might not be her. Finally I said "Just do whatever you want. You asked what I think. I think it's her. It's ok if you disagree with me, but stop trying to convince me this new gal you've never heard of before, suddenly wants to be your best friend."

A little later, he calls me again saying that he and the current girl friend broke up (again). They were going to come over here for supper next Wednesday night. He is worried about the health of his pickup and she was going to drive him here. No girlfriend means no ride so they are not coming now. He said "This time it's for good." I have heard that literally at least three times now with this same gal.

I need to be left out the loop of his love life.

Then, about 10:00am, the church called saying they can't get on the internet. I went over there and the modem had DSL connection, but no ISP connection. I called the phone company and went around and around with them for TWO HOURS trying to find the problem. Finally, a higher level tech was able to find the problem on their end and get it working again.

My wife has been texting her cousin. They moved from Denver to Colorado Springs last fall. They were renting out their house in Denver. the cousin's sister needed a place and they were having trouble with the renters, so they gave the renters notice that they needed to move out. The renters are out and have destroyed the house. Holes in the walls, doors ripped off, a stair railing torn down and carpets covered with pee and poop (assuming it's animal, but they are not sure). They have a $1,000 deposit, but that isn't going to come close to covering the damages.

My wife is working out when would be the best time that she can go out there to help them clean and repair things. I think they have it worked out that she will go out Saturday - Monday. After it's all scheduled she then says "That's what I'll do . . . if you don't mind."

I was a little shocked that she added the "if you don't mind" part because she hasn't cared one bit what I've minded about over the last few years. But, on the other hand, she made all the plans before she even asked me if I care.

That's my day so far. 

 

 

 



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I've been fairly productive today. I think. Lots of little, outstanding items have been taken care of now. I have a few more to finish out my day. The rain has come and gone. It is slowly clearing out.

I see you are going to have a guys weekend Web. Making any plans for the two of you, especially since Jr will be done school?

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No, I just found out about this two hours ago. No guy plans have been made yet. We will have to think about that.


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Good day all.

Kinda crazy work day here, but that's not too unusual. Another print place in town that we have a positive relationship with is going out of business, so we're buying some of their stuff. So I went over to consult about that for a while.

I've met people like your cousin, Web. They get just so dependent on people that they just can't let go. When they find someone else the same way, they get codependent. Then when they break up, one of them turns into a stalker.

Speaking of other people's love lives, the ex-roomie is back. When we last left the story, he was staying at his aunts and coming over to our house nearly every single night. Then he got a girlfriend, and we got a bit of reprieve. But when he visited, down to a reasonable once a week or less, he brought his girlfriend and her 18 month old over. Our house is SOOO not baby proof. Brian usually works on his art on the coffee table right next to our laptop. Neither of us are kid people either, and a curious toddler stresses me out.

Well, his girlfriend was sleeping on her cousin's couch, and his aunt wouldn't let her and her kid move in with her. I can't say I blame her, but he and his aunt had a huge fight about it and he left. So him and his girlfriend (and the kid) got a place at one of those cheap short term housing places (I think it's just a studio apartment, if not just a long term run down hotel room).

While we were on vacation, he had a fight with his girlfriend because she's "not a woman." He's calling her still a girl, meaning she's immature. Now, this is coming from the most immature 42 year old man I know. And she's 20. Yeah. Speaking of codependency...

At any rate, his mom moved to Florida a couple years ago and now works for a rental company with a whole bunch of different complexes. One of the site managers for a small complex is getting fired, and she thinks she can get the ex-roomie the job. So he's putting everything on moving to Florida in a couple weeks for this job. I'm not sure if he broke up with his girlfriend before or after he talked to his mom. I think putting everything on the line for a job that his mom says she can get for him but he hasn't actually been hired for yet is very irresponsible, but that's not saying much.

So he called Brian on Thursday asking if he could stay at our place, since he's broken up with his girlfriend and pissed off his aunt. Brian told him that the ex-roomie would have to ask me, so that would give us time to talk about it, since we make decisions as a team. I was sitting right next to him while he was talking to the ex-roomie. We decided that if it was just for a few days and there was a definite end date, that it would be okay.

The ex-roomie comes over the next day, doesn't ask me if he can stay, and says that it could be three weeks, he doesn't know. He had to go visit another friend and didn't come back that night. Brian and I decided that no, since he's overstayed his welcome before, without a definite timeline, he can't stay. Then, on Saturday, he weasels his way into staying the night! I think Brian made it clear on Sunday morning that he should stay with one of his other friends, but I still worry every time I come home that he's going to be there.

Back to Web, I admit, I've done the, "That's what I'll do . . . if you don't mind," before. But it's when I know Brian won't mind and I ask to be polite just in case I was wrong. He hasn't minded yet, and I've asked him if it upsets him when I do that, and he says no. But when it comes to things like that, we have a pretty flexible relationship.

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I was just surprised that she even added the "if you don't mind" part. Even asking just to be polite hasn't happened in so long, it took me off guard.

Sounds like the ex-roomie is betting a lot of things on a fairly questionable "maybe" happening.

It's hard to deal with these people because it's so clear to us what needs to be done, or stop doing, but yet saying something either means hurt feelings, or it goes in one ear and out the other. I plainly remember talking to my cousin and suggesting that once he is finally free of his gal to let her go, no matter what she does or says to try to get back with him. He agrees with everything I said but later, once things calm down, lets her back in and the cycle starts over.

I saw the photos you were tagged in (Mz) . . . and I gotta say . . . you have a big brain!



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Hopefully, Web, her looking for you "not minding" is a sign that you might actually be getting somewhere!

The ex-roomie is irresponsible. I can't change that, but I can avoid enabling him. I think Brian is finally starting to get a bit more hard-nosed about it too. It's hard for both of us, because we both want to help our friends, but we're feeling taken advantage of. I'm hoping that he does end up going down to Florida expecting to get the job, and even if he doesn't, he'll move back in with his mom. Frankly, I'm a bit tired of being his mom and she can take back over for a while.

So I know what you mean. "It's hard to deal with these people because it's so clear to us what needs to be done, or stop doing, but yet saying something either means hurt feelings, or it goes in one ear and out the other." You're exactly right.

Thanks! That's not even half of the planned photos, but we're not going to be able to go to the rest of the brains for a few weeks yet. I do want to pick one to send to HorrorHound, and I'd rather do that sooner than later, so it'll probably be one of these early ones. I'll use the rest for profile photos I think, so don't be surprised if one shows up here!

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