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Should he be allowed to go to the tailgate party tonight [2 vote(s)]

Yes - He's already been punished by having to leave school
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No -- There should also be punishment at home
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To Go or Not To Go -- That is the Question


It NEVER fails!  When I have good things to say on how my kids are doing, the other shoe falls in poop!

Isaac had a counseling appointment yesterday, and I told his counselor how well he's been doing with his self control and attitude.  Then I call Mr. DS, and he's been to the school to pick him up because he had a "bad" day; enough that the principal said that maybe he needed to go home for the rest of the day.  It's not a suspension, but that it would probably be better if he "took the rest of the day off."

We have a tailgate fundraiser party at the school tonight.  I told Mr. DS that I don't think Isaac should be allowed to go.  He said that the principal said that it would be all right if he did because he wasn't suspended.  And Mr. DS seems to think that it might make him worse if he didn't get to go.  My view is that he did the crime, not being allowed after school fun is part of the fine.  Mr. DS said, "Whatever you think."  Yeah, I'm the heavy...

 



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My 'no' being contingent upon his level of control in whether or not he has a 'bad day'. If he really can't control it then he shouldn't be punished for something he has no control over. Assuming he can, then no... ya do the crime, ya do the time... that was the rule in my house.

Chris got suspended from school for fighting with the neighbor kid once while he lived with us. He got to spend his next 3 days performing such chores as scrubbing the kitchen floor with a toothbrush and "mowing" the yard with scissors. He was screaming 'child abuse' the whole time... but he never stepped out of line at school again while he lived with me. As he told his friends, "It's just not worth it. My stepmom is a hard@$$!".

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I actually think Mema and I are in agreement even though we picked different answers (I think it's because we have different experience).

If it's something that's hard for him to control, then I think he should go. And like Mr. DS said, it might make him worse if he didn't go. That's something I've had a hard time with with Brian. I feel guilty when I get pissed at him for things I know he can't control. Honestly, he's been passed out on the floor after a seizure before, and I've sat there with him thinking, "Man, I'm not in the mood for this right now." It's terrible, I'm ashamed of thinking that way.

But if he screwed up in a normal kid way, then yeah, he should have to redeem himself.

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Sometimes it's just hard for me to make a judgement call because of his Asperger's and how much on the high functioning end that he is.
With the other two they would "get it" when I was a hard@$$. With Isaac I know I have to take a different approach, because he doesn't always understand. I guess part of it is that I know that so many people don't understand the complexities of Asperger's or of Schizophrenia (in Jacob's case), so maybe they think he's just a bad kid and part of it is that maybe they think it's a reflection of our parenting.

Mz, sometimes I feel the same way when I see Jacob's number on my caller ID. Sometimes I'm aprehnsive about answering because I don't know what to expect -- even though he's been doing well on his meds for awhile.

So, I guess I should allow Isaac to go because he lost control because his anxiety level reached the limit, but I think I will still give him a light punishment at home like no tv for a week.

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