I have a friend (not a very close friend) who wants to do a cabaret and donate the proceeds to a charity. She's also a performer, and we've come to a lot of her shows, including all but 2 of her band's shows.
When she first started this cabaret idea, she scheduled a meeting for everyone who was interested in helping. At the first meeting, I was the only person to show. At the second meeting, it looked like I'd be the only person again, but another person showed up late, and she ended up convincing her friend to stop by. The third meeting was scheduled the same day as my birthday "party," so I couldn't go.
For my birthday, it really wasn't a party. We decided to go camping, so we invited all our friends to come along to sit around the fire, roast marshmellows, and that sort of stuff. I tried to make it clear that there was no start time, and that people could just drop by at any time. We had 3 friends show up: two were married, and the third had stopped by the other 2's house to hang out for the night and they brought him along. I was pretty bummed, and felt pretty friendless (although I had fun with the friends who did show). On my birthday, I had a few people apologize for not being able to come and wish me a happy birthday, so I felt better. But, I never heard anything from the friend who's planning the cabaret.
So I feel a little put out that I go out of my way to show up for her things, but she didn't say a word to me about my birthday. Is this a sign that she really doesn't care to have me around?
There's more meetings about the cabaret coming up. Should I go, or should I take the hint and give it up?
Is it possible that maybe she forgot about your birthday Mz, or may have thought the camping invite was for your close friends only so she didn't show?
If you're really interested in helping out with the cabaret thing, I don't see why you shouldn't stay with it. Maybe after the next meeting you could mention something about your birthday weekend and ask her why she didn't come. She may have a valid reason for the no-show.
Yeah, I'm playing Devil's advocate here, only because this happened to me a few times.