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The Good Witch Of The South

    



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Mean moms


I am one and had one!


 


Mean Moms-
> Someday when my children are old enough to understand the logic that
> Motivates a parent, I will tell them, as my Mean Mom told me: I loved
> You enough . . . To ask where you were going, with whom, and what
time
> You would be home.
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> I loved you enough to be silent and let you discover that your new
best
> Friend was a creep
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> I loved you enough to make you go pay for the bubble gum you had
taken
> And tell the clerk, "I stole this yesterday and want to pay for it."
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> I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned
> Your room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.
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> I loved you enough to let you see anger, disappointment, and tears in
my
> Eyes. Children must learn that their parents aren't perfect.
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> I loved you enough to let you assume the responsibility for your
actions
> Even when the penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
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> But most of all, I loved you enough . . . To say NO when I knew you
> Would hate me for it.
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> Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm glad I won them,
> Because in the end you won, too.
> And someday when your children are old enough to understand the logic
> That motivates parents, you will tell them.
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> Was your Mom mean? I know mine was. We had the meanest mother in the
> Whole world! While other kids ate candy for breakfast, we had to have
> Cereal, eggs, and toast. When others had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for
> Lunch, we had to eat sandwiches. And you can guess our mother fixed
us a
> Dinner that was different from what other kids had, too.
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>
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> Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we
> Were convicts in a prison. She had to know who our friends were, and
> What we were doing with them. She insisted that if we said we would
be
> Gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.
> We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve to break the Child
> Labor Laws by making us work. We had to wash the dishes, make the
beds,
> Learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash and all
> Sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie awake at night thinking of
> More things for us to do.
> She always insisted on us telling the truth, the whole truth, and
> Nothing but the truth. By the time we were teenagers, she could read
our
> Minds and had eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really
tough!
> Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn when they drove
up.
> They had to come up to the door so she could meet them. While
everyone
> Else could date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were
> 16.
> a
> Because of our mother we missed out on lots of things other kids
> Experienced. None of us have ever been caught shoplifting,
vandalizing
> other's property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all her
fault.
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> Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults. We
are
> Doing our best to be mean parents just like Mom was.
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> I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
> It just doesn't have enough mean moms!



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yeah, i'm a "mean" mom too.  and so was my mom.  my middle kid is "getting it", but i'm not so sure about the oldest and the youngest is still too young to get anything.  my mom used to leave "mean" notes and signed THE BIG BAD WOLF.  today is her birthday, i will have to call her and remind her of that...

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I guess my mom was a mean mom, but I don't really think of her that way. She was very young when she had me, so I think in a way we grew up together. So, I learned from her experiences, she didn't really have to stand over me and teach me any of these things.

But I was a "Why?" kid, and my mom always answered, "Because I'm the mom, that's why."
And my mom never asked when I would be home, she told me when I would be home!
And in school and such, when it was about me, my mom made me do the talking. When either of us had questions, she made me ask them. It really helped me learn to speak for myself and be independent.

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I guess I would have to qualify myself as a "mean mom". To this day I frequently check up on my boys... they are now 27 and 30. For as mean as they always told me I was when they were teenagers, they both now tell me "You are the best mom we've got! At least we know you care."  I guess that's not too bad considering I'm the second stepmom they have had, and I'm not much older than they are.


My mom had her "mean" moments, but she decided when I was about 11 that she was going to enroll herself in college. Since I already knew the basics of cooking and I owned an alarm clock, she introduced me to the washing machine and the dryer... from then on in I was basically on self monitoring mode.  My dad was never what you would consider a parent, so I was on my own hook to stay out of trouble, get my homework done, make sure I ate, and so forth.  I think I did a pretty good job raising me.



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Permanent State of Confusion

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Good job Mema. We are proud of you. And I am sure that Pambo would agree that you did a good job with yourself too.

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Mad Mema wrote:


My mom had her "mean" moments, but she decided when I was about 11 that she was going to enroll herself in college. Since I already knew the basics of cooking and I owned an alarm clock, she introduced me to the washing machine and the dryer... from then on in I was basically on self monitoring mode.  My dad was never what you would consider a parent, so I was on my own hook to stay out of trouble, get my homework done, make sure I ate, and so forth.  I think I did a pretty good job raising me.




Yeah, my situation was similar. My mom and dad divorced when I was 5, and my mom was a single mom trying to make ends meet, she had to teach me to take care of myself so we could keep a roof over our heads. In fact, in 2nd grade, I arranged my own afternoon babysitting with the lady next door! Later, she moved in with my now stepdad, who then took over the parenting that I was doing for myself. I had a hard time adapting to that, and then they had my sister and shortly after had unemployment/lay off problems where they had to take 2nd and 3rd shift jobs, so I was back to where I was before. I still have some problems with the way my stepdad handled it, but I guess he was the mean dad instead of the mean mom.

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confuzzed wrote:


Good job Mema. We are proud of you. And I am sure that Pambo would agree that you did a good job with yourself too.


Thanks!


Pambo is the ultimate "mean mom".  She even made her kids go to summer school even though they were not required to do so for the standard reasons.  She is also another "I raised my own self" case. She is the oldest child in her family, so she got the honor(?) of parenting her siblings as well. For the record, she's probably one of the best parents I know. 


At least I only had to fend for myself since I was the youngest. Can't imagine how tough it would have been to have to take care of other kids when I was little.  


Molly... I gather people in our boat go one of two paths. They either become demented or they become better, stronger people for it and try to do better for their kids. Fortunately, it seems the lot of us took the second path. I bet you are pretty darn good at taking care of yourself as an adult!  That is a fabulous thing from where I stand.



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