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I agree that if it is said as a closing to every conversation and used like a "goodbye" or "see ya later" that it loses its meaning. Not saying it enough is just as bad.

One late night I was sitting up with my mom in the hospital as she was dying from cancer. She told me that she wished her mom would and would have just told her that she loved her once in a while. She said she couldn't ever remember her mom simply saying "I Love You".

I told a few select members of my family about this and for the last few days, we all tried to get grandma to tell mom "I Love You" before she died. Grandma wouldn't do it. She kept saying "Oh, she knows I love her". No, grandma, just tell her . . . she needs to hear it. "She knows it". She never did do it and my mom died wishing her mother would simply say "I Love You".

I know this is different than what we're talking about it, but the point is that there are extremes to each side.



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You know Web, my mother never was one to say it very often when I was a child, but she did say it. It never occurred to me till just now, that she says it to me after every phone conversation now, and when I leave her house.

My mom has a terminal illness now, and I think she is just making sure that she says it each time I leave just in case she passes. How you do change as you get older.

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PS as a side note though, I did not feel I needed to hear it every day, each time we ended a phone call or departed one another as a child. But I know now why she is doing it, and even as a child it could go unsaid, because I knew she did love me.....

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Ever since my dad had his transplant he has started saying it and I NEVER heard it as a kid, so that makes me feel better. He realizes that sometimes we do need to hear it. He is very old school and I credit near death with his realization that words do mean something, not just actions.

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WebGuy wrote:
One late night I was sitting up with my mom in the hospital as she was dying from cancer. She told me that she wished her mom would and would have just told her that she loved her once in a while. She said she couldn't ever remember her mom simply saying "I Love You".

I told a few select members of my family about this and for the last few days, we all tried to get grandma to tell mom "I Love You" before she died. Grandma wouldn't do it. She kept saying "Oh, she knows I love her". No, grandma, just tell her . . . she needs to hear it. "She knows it". She never did do it and my mom died wishing her mother would simply say "I Love You".


That happens happens more frequently than one might think.  I've heard stories of people who say their parents never said it, or where their parents never hugged them.  no

But yours is probably the most tragic one I've ever heard!  I am shocked that your grandmother wouldn't just give in, considering the circumstances!  I can't imagine that she would still be so stubborn.  (Maybe it's an older generation thing?  Like the older people who refuse to go to the hospital, even for a simple little procedure, because "Hospitals are where people go to die."  I mean, there are a lot of old folks who WILL die because they didn't take care of said problem when it was easy to do.)

I'm so sorry, Web.  That sucks.  cry



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Ruby wrote:
Ever since my dad had his transplant he has started saying it and I NEVER heard it as a kid, so that makes me feel better. He realizes that sometimes we do need to hear it. He is very old school and I credit near death with his realization that words do mean something, not just actions.

Now that's the kind of story we like to hear!  Someone who has faced the possibility of death, and being changed for the better! 



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You know, I don't think I've ever heard my mom say it either. And if I say it to her, she immediately assumes I want something (and I've never used it that way). It doesn't really bother me, that's just my mom. *shrug*

And now that I think back, to the only other boyfriend that I was truly in love with, I never said I love you to him like I do with my husband. And I don't do that with family. I'll occasionally say it to my dad or grandma when I get off the phone, but it's not necessary. The only person I really say it a lot to is my husband, which I consider to be a good thing.

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I enjoyed all of your responses here. Saying I love you is a personal thing is it not? I agree that we should keep our personal conversations in the workplace to a minimum. However, if I am at work in the break room or taking an important call I really don't care if someone hears me say I love you to anyone on the other end of the phone.  Saying you love someone is your own business. I realized that the only reason I say I love you before I get off the phone almost everytime is because I do love that person and I don't feel quite right if I get off the phone without saying it.  I think using this term of endearment is different for everyone.  We are all entitled to express love in the way we all feel love.  Afterall if we all expressed love in the same fashion, this world would be very dull.  Personally, I say I love you often because I can't stand the thought of leaving this world suddenly without saying it.  Quite often I ponder what my last encounter with my loved ones incase I walk out the door and never have the chance to return.  Perhaps those who question why some people need to say I love you 10+ times a day should consider that some people live their lives embracing love as much as possible. No harm done.

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I think saying I love you can be implied in the way you say goodbye.smile

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Or even in what you don't say, but in what you do.

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or just having the gumpsion to "just do it"

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ok so I now sorta know more than when I posted this originally. This coworker had her drawer open and I can see that she has prayer notes as well as
reminder cards or notes that say "I love you. I need you." There is also a note reminding her to think before she speaks. They are in her handwriting. So apparently there are other issues that she has that are not public. I am not judging but I don't need a reminder to say "I love you" so there must be something else going on.


Also I have noticed that I don't say "I love you" after the end of every phone conversation with my husband, but usually. If he calls me from the store or gas station, I usually just say "bye." or "see ya in a few." smile

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