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Woo Hoo


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This came up after always hearing how the "annoying one" talks to her husband on the phone. At the end of the conversation she always says I love you but it is always low key and never sounds like she means it. Maybe she is just uncomfortable with it. I don't say it because I work with my husband all day. We always kiss before we begin work. Sometimes that is in the office sometimes outside depending on if I have to go into his building or not. If he is home sick and we talk on the phone I always say I love you. When the girl calls she always says I love you & I say it back.

Obviously if personal phone calls are a big no-no then I wouldn't expect you to say it though. Just something that popped in my head.

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I'm not a big fan of personal phone calls at work. Some people are considerate enough to talk quietly- then it doesn't bug me. but I hear some conversations sometimes that only seem reinforce the hunches I have about who is completely insane outside of work as much as at work....its distracting, annoying, and unprofessional.blankstare

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I personally like to end ALL my phone calls with "I love you", personal or not.

Someone calls me to set up an interview for a job I applied for?  I wrap up by saying "okay then, I'll be there Tuesday at 2 PM, I love you!"

Sure it's awkward, but it's a boatload of fun!  And every once in awhile, out of instinct, they'll slip and say "I love you too, bye".  weirdface


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yes personal phone calls can be annoying and you have those abusers. I'm not talking about condoning the people who think everyone should know their business. I just find it odd that the rest of the conversation is at a normal respectable level and then the "i love you" part is rushed and lower. Prolly just me.

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Jeremy Riggs wrote:

I personally like to end ALL my phone calls with "I love you", personal or not.

Someone calls me to set up an interview for a job I applied for?  I wrap up by saying "okay then, I'll be there Tuesday at 2 PM, I love you!"

Sure it's awkward, but it's a boatload of fun!  And every once in awhile, out of instinct, they'll slip and say "I love you too, bye".  weirdface

Now that is some funny stuff



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Hey D,

Are you watchin' yer sox? I am

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No, I am uncomfortable HEARING "I love you" at work.

That's something I personally will only say when one on one with someone. And certianly not on a daily basis, because then it doesn't mean anything.

I used to work in an office with a woman, who I like a lot actually. But every day she'd talk to her kids when they came home from school, just to check in - not a long conversation or anything. But she'd end it with "I love you" every single time. It's so stupid. And annoying. I remember one time her son had been a bad boy, and she was really p.o'd at him. and she's talking to him through clenched teeth, telling him how she can't believe his behavior, and he is gonna be sooo grounded, and boy when she gets home, he is in trouble! Then she growled out "I love you" and slammed the phone down. Shouldn't that tell her something about what a stupid Pavlov's dog tradition it is?

There is no reason for it. And if my husband or boyfriend or mother - Whatever - did that while hanging up with me, I would tell them to cut it the hell out.

Guess it's not surprising that it makes me uncomfortable to be at a wedding, watching people give their mushy vows in front of others, huh?


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You may be the most unique person I've ever known Lady Strange.

You're actually making the arguement for NOT telling your kids you love them every day!

Wow!

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And oh my God, are you actually suggesting that a mother should NOT let her child know she loves him because she's mad at him? As if love is something to be taken away and given back upon your mood?!?!

Wow. Just.... Wow!

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No! NO! No no no no noooooo!

You're not reading me correctly. Of course you should tell your kid you love him or her. But there is a time and a place for that. And at work isn't the time or the place. Tucking them into bed at night would be a good time & place... When you've just finished bitching them out? That is certainly not the time.

Your bf/gf or spouse? NOT while at work! in front of other people. And most of all, NOT at the end of every single phone conversation. There's just no need to say it that often!

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aaaaaaah, ok.  Whew.  You had me worried with the kid one.

I think if the Mom says it all the time to the kid, then it's more important than ever that she say it when she's mad at him too.  So he doesn't think he can lose his mothers love by screwing up.

But I understand your point now.  Thanks for the clarification

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I always say I love you to my hubby and son on the phone and to E before I leave her for the day. I also have several friends I say it to. If that is the last conversation we have, then there is no doubt how I feel and I would be at peace knowing those were someone's last words. My son still says it back, but my hubby usually says something smart like -"I better!"

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I used to be one of those that quietly whispered "I love you" on the phone while at work until my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer......that ended my embarrassment about saying it no matter who was around or where I was at. 

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I say I love you at the end of a phone conversation, to my wife or mom. But because people......EAVESDROP.....sometimes I say it really low. Nothing Peesis me off worse than when you say something to the person you are talking to on the phone and the person EAVESDROPPING puts their two words in. evileye

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I sit next to someone who CONSTANTLY tells her husband she loves him- at least 10 times a day.  It makes me want to PUKE.  I love my husband but don't say it every time we talk on the phone.  We say it sometimes.  I don't feel the need to overdo it.  It does make it pointless, at least in my humble opinion.

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Cheeselvr wrote:

I sit next to someone who CONSTANTLY tells her husband she loves him- at least 10 times a day.  It makes me want to PUKE.  I love my husband but don't say it every time we talk on the phone.  We say it sometimes.  I don't feel the need to overdo it.  It does make it pointless, at least in my humble opinion.

 



Thank yoooou!

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I'm not a big phone person so I guess that's why I never thought of it that way. I say it when I get off the phone with my husband. But I am hardly on the phone with him. Now the girl tends to abuse it!

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If I love someone, I don't see any reason not to tell them. Just because I say it a lot, doesn't mean I don't mean it. Whenever my husband and I part, whether it be on the phone or in person, we always say, "I love you." I don't care if anyone else hears it, and I don't care what anyone else feels about me saying it. But, the only time Brian and I talk on the phone really is when it's something that shouldn't wait until we get home.

I also have no problem with public displays of affection, as long as it's appropriate. Groping and such is a bit much. But for the most part, I feel like if you have feelings for someone, why hold back?

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I think only the person saying it can know if it's appropriate or not.

Personally, I don't think you can say it too often. I wish I said it more to the people I care about in my life (but there is that guy thing that makes it difficult for me to say it in most circumstances). After my Dad died I found it was a lot easier, but that eventually slipped away again.

I'd rather say it too much than not say it enough.

However, I do understand that it can for some people simpy become nothing more than habit. If there's not really any feeling or emotion behind it, and it's just how you end your conversations with a loved one, then it really is pointless.

But only the one saying it can know that, so I don't think it's a good policy to criticize people that do.

That's all I have to say. Oh, and I love you guys

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Exactly! What ^he sad!

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Actually, to take it one step further, the person who it really matters to is the person that it's being said to. They are the one that need to know you mean it.

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I think it doesn't matter how often or infrequently it is said, it should make you look into your heart and "fill the cup" so to speak.
Some times you might feel you have to say it just because thinking of that person you are talking to makes your heart skip a beat(sometimes not) and that elated feeling is more than enough to give you reason to say it or hearing it from that person is enough to make you think of some speacial moment.

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My mother-n-law says it everytime any of her family says goodbye.  I think it's good if it makes her feel better...but it is so very predictable. I don't doubt that she means it, but it is just a little overkill. I guess love makes this world a better place, so why complain, right?

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When I do have someone who fills my heart with joy, I will not have a problem expressing it as often as I feel it will bring joy to that person.

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Don't really do personal calls at work...but if Mark calls me from his work I always end with I love you and he just says yes or Mm and tends not to say it back lol.

I regularly tell the girls I love them....and do so when I'm having a strop at them too, I tell them I get so mad BECAUSE I love them.

They tell me they love me too so it's a two way thing. They even say it to each other (but might not admit to it lol)

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I guess I never really thought about it...I never really had a reason to consider it. It's interesting to see how people view this topic. I'm not shy about what I want to say at work, but then I work in a pretty easy-going environment and I am surrounded by friends there. Yeah, I'd say it if I wanted to do so. smile

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OOOPS

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The only person I end my phone calls with "I love you" is to Kaisha. I do it because, she doesn't live at home anymore, and I worry about her constantly, so I have to tell her each time she calls....

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I LOVE YOU!




LOL!!!!

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willy_smith34 wrote:
I LOVE YOU!

LOL!!!!

I know, if I were a more obnoxious person, I would end every post like that until my point was made.  (Luckily, though, I'm a sweet innocent little angel, so I will push thoughts like that away...) 



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