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How to Deal with the Office Jerk


These were interesting AND amusing...

How to Deal With an Office Jerk

Robert M. Detman, for Yahoo! HotJobs

Office life can have its ups and downs, but having to endure a jerk can make it miserable. Office jerks take on many forms, and thus require creative strategies for dealing with them.

Handling Six Common Types

The Loud Phone-Talker. "Obviously the first step is to pull them aside quietly and ask them to lower their voice when using the phone," says Julie Jansen, a career coach, consultant, and trainer. "If this doesn't stop them, you could dish out the same treatment and stand near their cube on your cell phone and talk loudly. Or you can hold up a sign that says, 'Please turn volume down.'"

The Hang-Arounder. When confronting the co-worker who chronically lingers to chat when you are trying to make a deadline -- a subtle jerk, but a jerk nonetheless -- try standing up when they enter your office or cube. "The unspoken message of your body language will clearly tell him or her to keep it brief and head for the door," says Ken Lloyd, author of "Jerks at Work: How to Deal With People Problems and Problem People."

The Idea Stealer. There is a strong possibility that this jerk can't distinguish between a good idea and a bad one. "Somewhere along the way, slip in a really bad idea and let the jerk steal that," Lloyd says. However, beware that this might only encourage the jerk to become worse.

The Meeting Monopolizer. Get creative. "Try eliminating the chairs and making it a standup meeting," Lloyd suggests. The monopolizer will likely get thrown off and won't have time to settle into the usual routine of unproductive dominance.

The Bully. Remember, you're not in high school anymore. "Hold your ground and refuse to be bullied," says Steve Piazzale, a career and life coach who runs BayAreaCareerCoach.com. "They'll usually back off over time."

The Boss. Sometimes dealing with a jerk should not be your problem, particularly if you have a manager who is a jerk. In this case you might take a look around the company and notice several jerks. "This may be part of the company culture," Piazzale says. "In which case get out!"

More General Coping Strategies

Passive. Avoidance is the most obvious solution if you don't want a confrontation with any type of office jerk. "You can go to your boss and ask him to intervene," says Jansen. Or, if things are really unbearable, you could ask to be relocated to another part of the office.

Active. Avoidance can backfire if the jerk continues the annoying behavior. Try talking to the person. "Difficult people don't always know they're being difficult," Jansen says. "People generally don't have a very high level of self-awareness, so specific and constructive feedback is important."

If you must confront a jerk, it is wise to take the high road. Career coach Piazzale says, "Try to understand where the behavior is coming from, and tailor your response to that."



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sage advice!smile

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Just don't let your horse out of the barn without a rider. You will end up in anger management class.

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after awhile my company will just throw the 2 in the conference room to work out their issues. They think they will either kill themselves or get past it. But sometimes it doesn't work.

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when needed, i take the more passive aggressive approach...

empty the copier of paper; all the staplers of staples.
connect paperclips together... 

whatever i know causes or adds to agrivation... 

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okay, so i came up with another one...

i get tired of the warehouse and shop people coming in and sucking up our air conditioning all the while scanning our desk to see what they can see.  not to mention leaving early or parking out of the parking area so they don't have to lock the heavy ass gate...

so, earlier in the week when they asked when THE MAN was coming back from out of town, i told them "i don't think he'll be back in the office until monday afternoon..."

well, THE MAN just showed up about 15 minutes ago, and the warehouse and shop are locked up and everyone is gone...  (they left an hour early) stupid losers...

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disco strangler wrote:

okay, so i came up with another one...

i get tired of the warehouse and shop people coming in and sucking up our air conditioning all the while scanning our desk to see what they can see.  not to mention leaving early or parking out of the parking area so they don't have to lock the heavy ass gate...

so, earlier in the week when they asked when THE MAN was coming back from out of town, i told them "i don't think he'll be back in the office until monday afternoon..."

well, THE MAN just showed up about 15 minutes ago, and the warehouse and shop are locked up and everyone is gone...  (they left an hour early) stupid losers...



good one!biggrin



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I think I AM the office jerk. hmm.gif




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well, stop...  or i'll hide your mouse!

which reminds me...  another thing i recently did was flip around the batteries in the SHE BOSSES mouse, so she thought it was broken...

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disco strangler wrote:

well, stop...  or i'll hide your mouse!

which reminds me...  another thing i recently did was flip around the batteries in the SHE BOSSES mouse, so she thought it was broken...



wow DS...your avatar matches you perfectly!!



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i should have chosen 'SNEAKY NINJA' instead...

but if you ever need any ideas..... biggrin
i'm the person to see... biggrin

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Thats funny - lol

One of the best tricks I've read about was an IT guy that felt he was being let go unfairly.

He wanted to do something non destructive on his way out. The entire office was using Linux so he recompiled a special kernel (the main brians to the operating system) and installed it on every desktop computer in the company.

He set it up on a timer so a few days after he left, at a certain time, every computer in the office started opening and closing its CD tray.

Rrrrrrrr (open) . . .  Rrrrrrrrr (close) . . . over and over again, every machine.

Since it was compiled into the kernel, there was no way to stop it other than recompile a new kernel or open the machine and unplug the CD drive.



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that's funny.
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Hey DS . . . So are the shop/warehouse people getting their butts handed to them by the THE MAN this morning?






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This is a cute thread! I LOVE caller id!

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