Have you been drooling over Jake Ryan from Sixteen Candles since you were in middle school? Believe it or not, your cinematic crush may reveal more than a mere penchant for tall, dark and handsome men, says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., the host of Detroits popular Love Doctor live television and radio programs. Curious as to why certain movie characters make your heart melt? Check out this guide to what your cinematic crush says about what type of guy youre really looking for.
The Bad Boy: George Clooney in Oceans Thirteen, Colin Farrell in Miami Vice, and Johnny Depp in Pirates of the Caribbean: At Worlds End
What youre really looking for: Someone who is exciting, adventurous, and even a little bit dangerous. This guy lives life on the edge, and if youre with him, youll get the opportunity to take a walk on the wild side right along with him.
The Love Doctor weighs in: A woman who is professionally successful and highly achievement-oriented is often attracted to a bad boy, because being with someone who is unreliable and spontaneous her complete opposite is very exciting and sexy. Because hes not someone to settle down with, in choosing him you communicate that you arent yet ready for a quality relationship. Instead, you are looking for fun and probably feeling the need for a little rebelliousness. You might even be a bit unhappy, but not ready yet to look at your life. You havent yet realized that your heart will pump faster when you find someone who is similar, not your opposite.
The Peter Pan: Vince Vaughn in The Break-Up, Matthew McConaughey in Failure to Launch and Jack Black in School of Rock
What youre really looking for: A man who wants and needs to be taken care of. You adore his carefree, kid-like attitude, which feels fresh and different to you, even if it does remind you of being an older sister. When the two of you spend an afternoon playing hooky from work, its tremendous fun makes you feel young and giggly again, which is refreshing.
The Love Doctor weighs in: If youre attracted to an I wont grow up kind of guy, you tend to be someone to whom others turn for advice and help because youre a very solid, reliable person. Youre glad to be that kind of person, but you may feel weighed down by always being the responsible one or feel like theres too much structure or adulthood in your own life. In picking this guy, you choose your opposite someone who most certainly isnt structure-oriented and that provides you with the escape you need.
The Player: Ryan Phillippe in Cruel Intentions, Jude Law in Alfie and Will Smith in Hitch
What youre really looking for: The boost to your own self-image that you gain from being with someone who others find highly attractive.
The Love Doctor weighs in: Choosing this type of guy can indicate a host of different things. Picking a player can suggest a need for attention. By wanting to be with someone who not only has a reputation for being a hot commodity, but also is known for being with the hottest women, your stock with others rises. Its also possible that you have low self-esteem if this is your type, because you dont think you can get a man on your own merits. Lastly, the fact that youre pursuing a manipulative, arrogant hottie says that youre not looking for the marrying type.
The Sweet, Sensitive Guy: Zach Braff in Garden State, John Cusack in Say Anything and Adrien Brody in King Kong
What youre really looking for: A keeper. Someone who will get along with your friends and family, be your best friend, confidant and your lover. This is a guy who was telling the truth in his profile: He really does like to talk long walks and watch the sunset!
The Love Doctor weighs in: In picking a kind and considerate guy, youre indicating that you want a mate who is confident and able to share and express his feelings to you. You have a calm, confident attitude about loveand plenty of time to explore it with this guy. Youre ready for a real relationship, and chances are, he is, too. This could be the real thing.
The Warrior: Bruce Willis in Live Free or Die Hard, Brad Pitt in Troy and Viggo Mortensen in Lord of the Rings
What youre really looking for: A man who is powerful and aggressive. This guy knows what he wants, goes for it and always gets it. You love that hes tough and nearly always emerges victorious when he engages in battlebe it on the court, the field, the battleground or in the workplace.
The Love Doctor weighs in: You like the idea of a man taking control of the relationship; his power turns you to mush. In picking a guy like this, you dont necessarily have to have control over what goes on in your relationship all the time. Hes got raw sexuality, and you do, too, so youre a hot pair.
The Workaholic: Matt Damon in The Good Shepherd, Topher Grace in In Good Company and Richard Gere in Shall We Dance?
What youre really looking for: Someone who wont be turned off by your busy schedule.
The Love Doctor weighs in: You are a person who likes to do things on her own. In fact, you may be a bit of a workaholic yourself and believe that sexy text messages back and forth arent such a bad stand-in for the real thing once in a while. You dont mind hanging out with the girls or pursuing your own career, because time with your partner is like a rich dessertyou enjoy it all the more because its infrequent. You get what you need out of your relationship, although you may not see your partner or spend as much time with him as others do in their relationships. You get plenty of affirmation from others in your life like friends, family and co-workers.
Chelsea Kaplan is deputy editor at www.thefamilygroove.com. Her blog, Im Somebodys Mother? can be found at www.rumymother.blogspot.com.
-- Edited by garougal at 12:23, 2007-07-12
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