What does your cinematic dream date say about your dating style? More than you think, says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., the host of Detroits popular Love Doctor live television and radio programs. If you thought there was little more than a pretty face behind your movie crush, the doctor is in to tell you what that fantasy woman reveals about your true dating desires.
The Girl Next Door: Drew Barrymore in Music & Lyrics, Kate Hudson in You, Me and Dupree, Kirsten Dunst in Spiderman 3 and Cameron Diaz in Theres Something About Mary
Youre really looking for: Someone with whom you can have a quality, committed relationship. Youre seeking someone reliable, dependable and trustworthysomeone you can take home to your family and someone who can get along with your friends. You want a companion you can build a life with and someone who will return your genuine love for them.
The Love Doctor weighs in: The girl next door is the gal who will really understand why you still hang out with your high-school buddy who is obsessed with antique trains, or why you will only eat ice cream on weekends. What does this say about you? It means that you are ready to have a relationship in your life and to trust and share your intimate feelings and thoughts with a woman.
The Brain: Toni Collette in In Her Shoes, Gwyneth Paltrow in Proof and Julianne Moore in Children of Men
Youre really looking for: An intellectual challenge. You want someone who can meet you head-to-head in wits and intelligence. You crave a woman who gets turned on by seeing a foreign film and then getting into an animated discussion about it later in bed.
The Love Doctor weighs in: You are secure in yourself, with who you are and with where you are in life and work. You are not threatened by women who are your equals in power and intelligence. Instead, you feel intelligent women amp love and sex up to the next level.
The Bombshell: Rose McGowan in Grindhouse, Beyoncé Knowles in Dreamgirls and Jessica Simpson in The Dukes of Hazzard
Youre really looking for: Someone with whom you can have a fun date, a one-night stand or a non-committed relationship. You want someone who can give you an encounter or relationship with no strings attached or who wont come with any emotional baggage. This type of woman could patent a perfume called Unavailable, which is a scent that always turns you on.
The Love Doctor weighs in: In choosing this type of woman, you show that you value fun and excitement over commitment. Being attracted to the bombshell type indicates that you are not in the right space and place to settle down with a woman, and you arent ready to trust and share yourself fully with a woman. Instead, youre in it for fun. Theres also a chance that choosing this woman communicates a certain sense of guardedness. You are reminding yourself that you could be hurt emotionally if you fall in love and become vulnerable.
The High-Maintenance Princess: Reese Witherspoon in Legally Blonde, Lela Rochon in Waiting to Exhale and Uma Thurman in My Super Ex-Girlfriend
Youre really looking for: Women who will be dependent on you. High-maintenance women will always call on you to you to fulfill their needs, and in choosing one, youre willing to gladly cater to their each and every need. In return, you will be given rewards for all that you do to please them.
The Love Doctor weighs in: Even though she is exasperating at times, you like to be seen with this gal because shes always well-put together and enhances your image with the guys. Chances are, you are also someone who doesnt have a high degree of self-confidence or self-esteem. You need the reinforcement or positive feedback from others that this kind of woman brings to feel good about yourself.
The Career Woman: Anne Hathaway in The Devil Wears Prada and Kate Bosworth in Superman Returns
Youre really looking for: A woman who is confident with herself and expects to be at the topand in front of others.
The Love Doctor weighs in: You are not afraid or threatened by women who are powerful, bright, and earn a good living. This says a lot about your own confidence: You dont fade out when the woman in your life shines.
The older woman: Jennifer Aniston in The Good Girl, Diane Lane in Unfaithful and Cate Blanchett in Notes on a Scandal
The Love Doctor weighs in: This means that you are more mature than your years or that you are attracted to the qualities of your mother. Neither is a bad thing. You have probably always been interested in friends who were older than you. You have also learned a secretthat older also means more experienced. Sometimes older translates into less drama too, which is fine with you. Rejoice in your own maturity and be watchful that any age gap doesnt create too many conflicts.
Chelsea Kaplan is deputy editor at www.thefamilygroove.com. Her blog, Im Somebodys Mother? can be found at www.rumymother.blogspot.com.
-- Edited by garougal at 12:30, 2007-07-12
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