The ex-wife has got a new boyfriend and she is going like 90 but that is not my problem.
Question 1- What is this all about? Anyway since this has happened the girl keeps talking to my husband about what they are doing like: ewww I have to watch them kiss all the time! He thinks this is weird that she keeps bringing it up. Side notes: the girl is in therapy but we are never told about what. We know that she doesn't deal well with things. And the ex-wife has been married since my hubby but was killed by a drunk driver.
Question 2- What the heck happened here? we had to notify the ex-wife that our health insurance is changing again since what we have no longer exists. My husband looked up the girl's doctor and they weren't listed. So he told her that she might want to check with the office and see if they are switching to this insurance we are considering. He said when he talked to her she had no personality and never agreed that we shouldn't have to spend extra money to keep her doctor. She said flatly: I can call them. We have never had a problem with her and definitely never had a problem when she was married. All we can think of is maybe the new boyfriend is jealous of our relationship
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My reaction - weird and weird!There's a hundred things that could be bothering your girl, but the only way to find out is to ask and hope she wants to share. Maybe she doesn't like him. Maybe she doesn't like how it affects her relationship with her mom. If she keeps bringing it up, something's bothering her. She just might need the invitation to talk about it casually and safely (meaning she feels she won't be criticized, or maybe she doesn't want her mom to know how she feels).The ex and the insurance thing...again, there's no clear answer and her reason for being flat might not have had anythign to do with the topic at hand, so speculation would be difficult. However, doesn't it strike you as strange that a doctor is unlisted? And for your benefit, shouldn't you have the doctor's contact info in case you ever need it?
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yeah we think it's weird too, but the girl doesn't really like to share a whole lot. I kinda think that she truly never got over the divorce and that it has nothing to do with anyone personally. But she didn't start dealing with it until recently. The boyfriend is someone from their 'Jeepers Group" so the girl would be familiar with him. I don't doubt that her Mom is acting different though. If it continues I will push him to flat out ask her though. She hasn't said anything to me.
As for the insurance thing I guess I didn't make myself clear. I was talking about the doctor not being listed as to taking the new insurance plan we were looking into. We get the big book to look through to pick out doctor's. I didn't talk to the ex-wife so all I got was my husband's impression. It might of been a bad day but I did notice that we were completely ignored the last time we dropped off the girl back home.
Thank you for your thoughts.
-- Edited by Woo Hoo at 15:09, 2007-07-23
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yeah we think it's weird too, but the girl doesn't really like to share a whole lot. I kinda think that she truly never got over the divorce and that it has nothing to do with anyone personally. But she didn't start dealing with it until recently. The boyfriend is someone from their 'Jeepers Group" so the girl would be familiar with him. I don't doubt that her Mom is acting different though. If it continues I will push him to flat out ask her though. She hasn't said anything to me.
As for the insurance thing I guess I didn't make myself clear. I was talking about the doctor not being listed as to taking the new insurance plan we were looking into. We get the big book to look through to pick out doctor's. I didn't talk to the ex-wife so all I got was my husband's impression. It might of been a bad day but I did notice that we were completely ignored the last time we dropped off the girl back home.
Thank you for your thoughts.
-- Edited by Woo Hoo at 15:09, 2007-07-23
As far as the doctor your state should have an on-line listing of all doctors that are liscenced in the state (at least NJ & FL do)...that way you can at least find out something
First Woo, I get it. According to the literature the insurance company gave you, that doctor does not carry the new insurance. He's not listed as a Primary Care Provider for this insurance company. But he is listed in the phone book.
Okay, back to the topics at hand: How old is the girl? Does she have a boyfriend? Maybe her boyfriend and her are getting serious, and she's redirecting the attention to her mom. Kind of like an in-the-closet gay man criticizing gays.
I'm guessing you're right with the new boyfriend jealous of the ex still being around. Or, she's just afraid that the new boyfriend might be jealous. But, I'd guess the insurance thing was probably just about her not wanting to ask the doctor's office.
And the girl being in therapy is probably just for general mental health. It's a good thing. I'd say just let it be unless she wants to talk about it.
the girl is 14 almost 15 and doesn't have a steady boyfriend right now. She goes through them like crazy! I was already aware of the girl being in therapy but I just wanted to fill you guys in. We had to set it up because we carry her insurance. They don't let the ex do anything without a hassle. They can't get over the difference in last name.
I suppose the ex could be expecting the new bf to be jealous. It's just weird since my husband already knows him because my husband is friend's with the ex-brother-in-law and he runs with that pack. Oh well I guess we will just have to wait and see what happens.
Thanks!
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