I have worked at the WGC (golf course) about 7 years now. About a year ago a new guy named Dave was hired to be a grounds keeper, he's 55. I'm 42, and I think he's cute. He's extremely nice, and today he told me he and his girlfriend broke up.
I (being the dork I am) was talking to him about camping. He said he went camping this past week, and I asked him if he went w/ his girlfriend.....he said, "we broke up"... and like a goofball, I had the crazy idea of saying, "well next time you go, give me a call, I'll go camping with you."
Ugh... I felt so stupid.... but he said, "okay, I will.".... I don't think he thought I was serious.
On that note, do you think 55 is too old for me. He really doesn't look that old. And his daughter is about Kaisha's age and out on her own.
Well, I think in general a guy being older is nothing out of the ordinary. 13 years is quite a difference, but what the heck, does it really matter?
It's not like you have a huge gap in life experience. At 42 you've seen about as much as he has at 55. If it's something you think could work out I don't think you should let age be a factor.
If you were in your 20s and he in his 30s, with a 13 year gap, it would be a little different then, but as JR said, you're probably both about in the same place now with life experiences.
Just to have a nice guy, and after 4 years of such a rocky relationship w/ a younger guy, I am thinking an older guy is probably better.
He's really good looking, he does look a bit older than me, but I look young for my age. Not tooting my own horn, but I don't think I look 42. But I am 42 so let's face it, some day we'd even out and look the same when I'm 55 and he's 68
I don't think its too much difference right now, but if it was me, I'd be considering the future if it worked out for you and you got married. Of course none of us know what the future holds, but with that age difference, you could end up spending a lot of later years alone.
Again, I'm not saying I think its a bad idea, but its something to think about.
Darlene, in the grand scheme of things, so what if he looks older than you? If you two are compatible in a lot of areas, that's the only thing that should matter.
I don't think its too much difference right now, but if it was me, I'd be considering the future if it worked out for you and you got married. Of course none of us know what the future holds, but with that age difference, you could end up spending a lot of later years alone.
Again, I'm not saying I think its a bad idea, but its something to think about.
That's the only thing I worry about in my marriage Web, with him being 10 years older than me. Usually the man goes first, and I'll be looking at a long time alone if it happens that way.
Go for it D.....you are only as old as you feel (or look in some people's case)....remember how much love there was between Anna Nicole Smith and her old hubby....what was it 50 years or so????they were in love!
No really, age shouldn't make that much of a difference now....you are bothy "old" enough to know what you are getting into!
I like older men... I once had a fling...ahem...in my pre marriage days...ahem... with a policeman who was 21 years older than me....and when I think of him now lol he'd be 63....but he still brings a smile to my face and i still wish I was in touch with him...just for friendship use of course now... I don't think age matters a great deal - I think it depends on what the two individuals think about it!
