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CP


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I have been a bit down on myself these past few months. My marriage is disolving, I just lost my job and it looks like I will lose my house. I was feeling really sorry for myself.

Just a few moments ago my mother called. A cousin, with whom I am quite close, her husband was diagonosed with Cancer. They give him six weeks to live.

I thought to myself, as bad as I thought I had it, at least I do not have to say goodbye to my kids, my friends etc. I cannot imagine knowing that I had this kind of illness and having to tell my 10 y/o goodbye.

Made me think. Maybe life is not so bad. It certainly could be worse.

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Mad Mema


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Very true, CP.

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oh man cry.gif

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CP, as long as we have life we have hope.

You can and will bounce back...you did it before and you can do it again.   smile

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I'm trying as always to "be in the moment", "be HERE NOW"....I do that outside a lot of times when walking. When you are in the moment, there is a beautiful sky, trees, birds chirping. its important to be here, now. FOr a long time, my thoughts were "once I retire, I will be able to really enjoy....." you got to be able to do that right now.  

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Pambo


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I dunno, man. Sometimes the only NOW there is is pain & heartache. It's all relative.

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Mad Mema


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Sometimes it's just really hard to see around the pain and heartache.... but there is always something else.

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Life can always be worse.  And JD is right.....you gotta live your life today because tomorrow may not come; heck, an hour from now may not come, ya never know.


I've always wondered if I had a terminal illness, if I'd want to know.  What would be the point in knowing that I had weeks or a few months to live?  Yeah you can argue that it gives you time to get your affairs in order and say goodbye to loved ones, but it would also depress the hell out of me and I think in the back of my mind I'd constantly be wondering if today was the last one.  Some people say they'd want to know so they could do the things they've always dreamed/wanted to do, but how many of us could/would do that?  I bet more would choose to spend whatever time they had left with their families and friends. 

I don't know; I just remember what it was like when they diagnosed my mom and said she only had a few months.  Her friends stopped calling and coming by to visit.....they were afraid they'd somehow be disturbing her or afraid they would break down in front of her.  The doctors talked about quality time; most of my mom's time was spent sick as a dog from the chemo and she was too weak/worn out to do anything on the days she didn't get chemo.  And as far as saying goodbye, we didn't really do that; talking to her about her death truly upset her......the leaving us behind was the part she couldn't bear, not the fact that she was dying.  So it was like having an enormous elephant in the room....everyone could see it, but no one really talked about it. 

So I don't know if I'd want to know if I was terminal.  If they told me, I might not say anything to anyone about it.  And I sure as hell wouldn't take chemo, not after everything I've seen.     

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Mad Mema


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I think I would want to know. I'd sure try to not let on to anyone, but I'd do as much nice stuff for the people I love as I could before I went. Just wouldn't want anyone being all sad or weirded out about it.

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ghostdancer


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That was the thing Mema; people acted different towards my mom after they found out.  We all did to some extent.  I wouldn't want that for myself. 

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I am sorry that everyting seems to be a mess right now CP. I hope that things turn around quickly. You know we are always here if you want to just babble away. I know I am good at listening. Not much else though. It is a difficult time, but Dylan is right. You did it before and you will do it again.

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