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Trish was talking about something in the prayer thread that got me talking about my grandfathers death in 2001, and that made me think of an interesting story related to his death that I thought I would share.


I'd also LOVE to hear if anyone else has anything to share along these lines.  Trish has a story about Irises and her Grand Father that can be found in the prayer thread.


My grandfather first of all, reminded me of Frank Sinatra.  He was a real throwback to the old kind of guy.  Tough as nails, with a certain charisma that just made you feel good to be around him (although I'm sure a big part of that is the fact he was grandpa )


Ok, so anyway.  He had a brother, Mel.  The two of them were hilarious together.  Many a summer the two of them would keep all of us in stitches when we'd go upnorth to a cabin together for a week (my grandpa had seven sons, and some of the grandkids would go to.  JUST THE GUYS MIND YOU )


Well, about a year before my Grandfathers death, Mel became very ill, and had to live in a home, with a portable oxygen tank and some other equipment.


When my grandfather died, we all assumed Mel wouldn't come, because logistically it would be so hard, but he insisted on being there.  During the viewing portion of the funeral, the night before the service, he showed up with his childrens help at the funeral home.


It caused us all to break down even more, because he was so heartbroken and in tears the entire time.  And he was making this long walk, from the front door, down the stairs, through the lobby, through the viewing area, at a painfully slow pace because he had to stop so often to rest or to cry.


The funeral came and went, and Mel had gone back to live in the home.


One afternoon, his daughter was outside his room talking to a nurse, when Mel started to walk past her down a hall going off to the right side.  She stopped him and told him he needed to get back in bed.  Mel told her Frankie (that's my grandpa) was calling him, he wanted him to have a cigarette with him, and pointed to the end of the hall.


His daughter told him no one was there, but Mel kept insisting Frankie wanted to have a cigarette with him as they got him back into his room and into his bed.


He died that night.


Take from that story what you will, but for me it's a comforting sign that the best is yet to come.  In my minds eye I can picture my grandfather clear as day, looking like Frank Sinatra, probably with one foot propped up on a chair down the hall, calling uncle Mel to him.


So, I'm willing to bet Trish & I aren't the only ones with stories. 


Anyone want to share?



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just posted mine in the prayer section Riggs.

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My mother was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago. She died about six months later after a long drawn-out battle.

Night time was always hard for her. She would always get anxious and nervous at night when she was in the hospital. Until the last few weeks, my dad spent over a month living in an Omaha hospital never leaving her side. He kept saying "I'm ok, I'm ok" but he finally got so worn down that he was hospitalized too where he just slept for three days straight.

At that point, my brother and I were taking turns staying with her 24/7. One night about 2:00am, I was sitting with her and she was having a very hard night. Not really awake, but was very restless and not doing well at all. I tried everything I could think of to help calm her down but nothing worked. Finally, I started singing softly to her. Our family is all fairly strong in the Christain faith and the first thing that popped into my mind was "Jesus Loves Me". I started singing it to her as "Jesus Loves You". She began to quickly calm down and rest peacefully. I suspected that it was just the sound of my voice that let her know I was there and that she was not alone. She died about two weeks later.

We had a funeral followed by a short grave-side service. As the grave-side service was coming to a close, our pastor stopped his normal routine and said:

I've never done this before and I don't know why I'm doing this today, but I am feeling very strongly compelled to sing. Let's sing a round of "Jesus Loves Me" as we close this service."

I was keeping it together pretty well until that point when I then totally broke down.

After the service I asked our pastor why he did that. He said, I can't explain it, It just came to me that we should sing that song.

Some may consider it coincidence, but to this day, I still fully believe that that was my mom's way to let me know that she is ok.




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I live in my grandpa's house, as I've mentioned before.  My daughter has said before that a great grandpa comes to her room sometimes.  She said he just smiles at her.  She is his namesake and his first great granddaughter (I was the first granddaughter).  We've had the occasional strange things happen that I think can be attributed to my grandpa.  They are long drawn out stories that I will save for another time.  I will tell you one short one that involves my daughter.  My husband, myself and my son are all diehard Blues fans.  My husband watches Cardinal's baseball sometimes, but he is by no means as big a fan as my grandpa was.  My grandpa lived for Cardinal's baseball.  My daughter was born on the first day of the Cardinal's baseball season.  One day, out of the blue, we were talking about Bleedin' Blue, the Blues slogan, and my daughter says, "I don't bleed blue, I bleed red, I'm a Cardinal's fan!"  All I could think was that somewhere my grandpa was smiling proudly and saying, "That's my girl!"  I know that doesn't seem strange, but we never talk about the Cardinal's at home that often and how she would pick up that she bleeds red...I don't know, it just seemed odd at the time.  Then again, sometimes you look for things just to have a connection.  Eh, it's a risk I'll take.  If he has to come to me and tell me I'm wrong, well, I'll take that chance.      

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...more than coincidence, without a doubt more than coincidence. Both of these are wonderful stories. I'm going to go get mine from the prayer thread and copy it here too....


Thank you for sharing these stories with the us.



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That ain't no coincidence, THAT MY FRIEND is a sign. 


Thank you SO MUCH for sharing that story.  That's exactly what I was hoping for in this thread.



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-posted this in the prayer thread too- but it belongs here- good thread idea, Riggs.


 


It will be 10 yrs ago the day after father's day, that my grandpa died. We weren't especially close, he was more of a pack-rat than a rat-packer; a bit odd. I liked him tho.



I will never forget his grave-side service. At the time I was pretty much an athiest, and like I said, wasn't too close to my grandpa. But I SWEAR TO YOU, at the last prayer at his graveside, I was overcome with his presence saying "goodbye, all is well, I've got to go". I tried to see if I was in some sort of denial, if this was some sort of mind-trick I was playing on myself, some sort of pent-up saddness letting itself out. But after awhile, it was as clear as day, it was him saying good-bye. That was the last time I think I ever had a good cry. Not so much at the loss, but having that sort of undeniably spiritual experience.



By the ducks today, I was reading about the New Orleans style funerals. We've all seen them in movies or shows; where the mourners march slowly down the street with the casket of the desceased with a real sad music playing. But at some point, they bust into an all out party with happy music. I read today that that point is when they march the body into the cemetary. It is at that point the spirit is released, which is cause for celebration. Mark my words, that is NOT all pomp and circumstance, that's the real deal.




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This one is from a lady that my wife works with.

This lady had lost her mother a couple years earlier when one day, her daughter was missing grandma badly. They thought about what to do and decided the girl should write grandma a letter. They tied the letter to a balloon and took it outside and let it go. The girl thought the balloon would carry the letter to grandma in heaven.

The balloon went up and the wind carried it away out-of-sight with the letter trailing along on the string. About a week later, they came home and they found the baloon deflated on the lawn right in front of their house. The baloon was in tact, the string was in tact, the letter was gone.



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Dovetails, that gave me chills!  That had to be so difficult.  I can't even fathom it. 


My grandpa had kidney failure and was on dialysis.  He just kept getting worse and it was wearing on him.  He finally decided to quit the dialysis.  He got better!  He went out to the farm and he seemed like his old self and all I could think was that his doctor was a big old quack and that he would live forever.  My dad tried to tell me that this happens sometimes before people pass, but I wouldn't hear it.  I was in such denial.  The day they called and had us come over, I was just sick.  I felt like my whole world had shattered.  I had planned on telling him how much I loved him and why when he was sick, but I didn't and when he was acting better, I just didn't do it.  I had always told him that I loved him, but I wanted him to know how much it meant to me when he would rub my cheek with his whiskers and ask if he needed to shave, and how he knew my parents wouldn't allow me to have a cat so he fed the one that "happened" to show up at the old family farmhouse that we moved to after my dad retired until I got there to take over and then convinced my parents to let me keep her, I could go on and on.  So many reasons why I really loved that man.  And so many times that I should have told him why I loved him instead of just that I loved him.  I was afraid.  I was afraid that he would think that the only reason I was telling him that was because he was sick and dying.  I wish now that I would have, and I have told him many times while I sat beside his grave, but it's just not the same.  I'm rambling again, but it's been a bad couple of days and I needed the release.  The tears are falling and I'm missing him so much it hurts.  I'm going to go walk on the treadmill and release some of the stress.  Hate to be such a downer, but I know you guys will understand.  I'll be back to my perky self in no time.     



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Take care Trish.  The workout will probably help!

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Its good to remember every once and awhile.

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That's rough Trish. My whole family was in denial about my grandmother when she was placed on the oxygen tank. Just from past experience I've got it set in my head that once they're on oxygen you've pretty much got 2-3 years left. There at the end she'd get winded walking across the room.

Anyway, the bizarre experience for me was a Tuesday night sitting on the kitchen floor playing with my 18-month old daughter. Suddenly I got it in my mind to hop in the car and drive the hour to visit my folks (my grandmother lived with them). It just seemed like a perfectly good idea to surprised them on a weeknight. But then reality set it - 7pm on a work night meant getting there at 8pm, visiting for a while and probably not getting home until 10 or 11pm. And my mom was coming up my way the next day for lunch, so logic won and we stayed home that night. No big surprise, my grandmother died the next morning around 10am. I'm much more attentive and in tune to thoughts and feelings like that now, if I get a bad feeling, I listen to it, make a change in plans until it goes away and don't question it afterward. I don't feel the need or desire to practice any conventional religion, but I do listen to the voices, wherever they're coming from!

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I'm better now, guys!  The workout did help.  I walked a total of 10 miles this weekend, but I feel better.  Just zoned out on the American Hi-Fi and the Killers and didn't think, just sang and walked.  Thanks for the support.  I know that you all are always here and I appreciate that more than you will ever know.   

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This story is about one of my Uncles died while I was still young.  It is my Mother's side of the family, which is my Mexican half.  My Aunt was really talented at making ceremics and had made a large spanish fan which my Uncle really loved.  They had it hanging over their bed on one nail, it it never moved for years.  Well, my Uncle was taken suddenly by a heart attack and my Aunt had a horrible time letting go.  She just could not get her head and heart around saying goodbye (she was a VERY stubborn woman).  The evening of the day he was buried, she was in their house alone and could not bring herself to go to bed because he was not there.  All of a sudden she hears this huge CRASH from the bedroom.  The fan had ripped the nail out, hit the floor, and shattered.  She said she knew it was a sign from my Uncle that she had to let him go.  She bounced back after that and was able to move on.



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All right, y'all.  You know what moves me in life, so I'm hoping you'll be patient for this post, you know I can't pass up an opportunity!


All these posts seem to show that we take great comfort in knowing where out loved ones ended up.  What peace are we going to leave for our loved ones when we go?  Myself, I don't fear my last day at all, be it when I'm 110 or in the next 5 minutes.  I know my family will be at peace with my passing as well.  My place is already reserved, a gift I can never repay.


Give it a thought, and if you haven't, give it a try!  My moniker says it all


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I know that my grandpa's in a better place.  He doesn't have the pain and embarrassment that he had in his last years and for that I'm grateful.  He's probably sitting up there watching a Cardinal's game and playing pinochle (although I don't think they let you cheat in Heaven, so he might be having a time of it).  I don't cry for him dying, I cry for missing him.  I'll see him again one day.  I, too, don't fear the end.  I know where I'm going (most of the time) and don't worry about it.   

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