My niece is dating a new guy and as normal with her when she meets a new guy, she's just head over heels in love.
Their grandmothers are first cousins. I never know how that works down the line and what that makes them as far as 2nd, 3rd, 4th cousins, etc.
It's really none of my business, and I'm not going to say anything to them about it, but I'm finding this just a little bit creepy.
What do you think? Both of their grandmothers are (were, my mom's passed) first cousins. Do you think that is a little bit too close to the trunk of the family tree, or does that make them far enough apart to not be a big deal?
I'm not real good at how the lineage works, but I'm thinking they're third cousins (?). If that is correct, I can see where that seems a little odd and hard to accept. Makes for something to talk about at family reunions, though
I wouldn't want any of my kids dating that close a cousin -- personal opinion.
Now, on the other hand, my aunt told me a juicy little tid-bit that I'm not really sure who all in my family knows, but her parents (my grandparents) were second cousins My aunt didn't know this until about ten years ago when she was visiting her aunt (her mom's sister) and her aunt bacame a little tipsy on wine and proceeded to be loose-lipped, telling sacred family secrets... Needeless to say, my aunt who is extremely emotional was furious that she only just found out (she was around 50 at the time), and is not talking to her aunt anymore because she kept it "secret"...
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I think the bloodline itself isn't as creepy as how they were raised. If they knew they were cousins before dating, that's creepy. But since they're far enough apart, just by bloodline alone doesn't seem too bad.
I just found out 2 weeks ago about a rumor in my family that my great grandparents were first cousins. Now I'm creeped out. I remember when working on our genealogy that the same name shows up on both sides of the tree, but it's a pretty common name, so I thought it was just coincidence. Now I need to look into it and see.
Legally speaking, I think it is probably "okay" since they are not first cousins. I believe DS is right, these kids are probably third cousins.
Though there are a few forks in there, it is not something I would feel comfortable with, especially if it is family that I actually grew up knowing and spending time with.
Honestly I think somewhere in every family there is some of that going on. I found out that there is a branch of my family tree that doesn't quite have the requisite number of forks in it. It is definitely a little uncomfortable at the reunions now knowing what the "dealio" is.
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They didn't really know each other or hang out together growing up, but they grew up only about 15 miles from each other (both farm kids).
My wife and I found out that we are 5th (according to my grandma) cousins, but it was by a 2nd marriage, so we don't share in the bloodline. That doesn't bother me any.
I knew this guy who was originally from California and moved to New Mexico when he was in elementary school. His dad was always on the road on "business" (yeah, monkey-buisness) and he was always talking about Las Vegas this, Las Vegas that... So, the kid grows up, graduates high school and decides he's moving to Las Vegas. He gets a job, buys a house, meets a girl, they date a few years and they decide to get married. In the meantime, he's never met his girlfriends mom because she's moved out East somewhere. When they go visit her mom, she has a major come-apart because he "looks just like his dad" and that's when he finds out his girlfriend is actually his half-sister
Yeah, real story. Seriously, what are the odds? I mean, really, Las Vegas is a big town...
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Oh, yeah... EVERYONE was pretty messed up after that one! Of course they broke up (that would be too Twilight-zone if they hadn't), and the girls mom hated the guy, which I don't really understand, because it wasn't his fault. But what is another extension of sick (again personal opinion), is that the guys mom stayed with his dad, knowing that he screwed up everyone's heads!
The guy has absolutely no relationship with his parents and he's pretty scary to be around -- like crazy scary, unpredictable scary...
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You should fear anything that can bleed for seven days without dying... (as told to Mr. DS on 3-12-10)
My aunt didn't know this until about ten years ago when she was visiting her aunt (her mom's sister) and her aunt bacame a little tipsy on wine and proceeded to be loose-lipped, telling sacred family secrets... Needeless to say, my aunt who is extremely emotional was furious that she only just found out (she was around 50 at the time), and is not talking to her aunt anymore because she kept it "secret"... 
It is definitely a little uncomfortable at the reunions now knowing what the "dealio" is.
