I'm feeling the best I've felt for the past week and a half. My throat doesn't hurt, I can breathe, I'm not all congested, and I had a full night's sleep unaided by medicine. Now if only I could hear out of my right ear....
Good morning all! I'm still in the heart of this late winter storm. We've had a bit of everything since around 8:00 last night; started with snow, switched to a mix of snow and sleet, switched again to freezing rain, then back to wet snow. It's currently sleeting & freezing rain, and it's getting windy too. Weathermen are saying we could end up with half an inch to an inch of ice by the time this thing winds down later tonight.
We're trying to decide how to handle a situation with the boy. It's not a bad thing, really, but not sure what to do . . . here's the deal:
Logan did something at school and won four pieces of "Jolly Rancher" candy (related to today's pic). The controlling, obnoxious girl in his class told him that she loves those and she wanted them. He said no. She said "I'll give you $10.00 for them". Being able to see through that attempt, he said "Ok, bring the $10.00 and you can have them". She said "Ok".
He came home and told us that he was getting $10.00 for four Jolly Rancers. We asked how/why and he explained the story in detail. I told him that he should just forget it because she is NOT going to pay him $10.00 for those four pieces of candy. Just to be sure, he kept the candy in his desk at school. Yesterday, (about a week after this started) he came home and showed me his new $10.00 bill saying that she brought the money.
We're not sure how to deal with this.
He made a fair deal.
She made a really bad decision and I expect that her parents had no idea that $10 she asked for was going for FOUR little pieces of candy.
It feels like he took advantage of her poor choices, but yet she was the insistent one in the deal. It's not like he was pushing her to buy them, she was not giving up until she got them.
This family comes to our church's Wednesday night kids events. We will see them tonight (pinewood derby races). We're thinking of giving this girl's mom $10 back and not telling Logan. It's not right that he took $10 for 10 cents worth of candy . . . but yet I don't blame him because she was so persistent about it.
I think the bigger issue for them is that this 10 year old girl has no concept yet of what $10.00 is . . . but it's not my place to say anything about that to them.
That's a tough call Web. Yes, he made the deal fairly and she was persistent in wanting the candy badly enough to be willing to pay $10 for it, but Logan has to know that it wasn't really right to take that much money for so little candy.
I tend to agree that the girl may not really have any concept of how much $10 really is. If it were me, and if I was relatively friendly with her mom and dad, I think I'd mention to them what transpired so that they are aware of it and can talk to their daughter about the value of money. As to whether the money should be returned, I don't know what I'd do.....I'd probably give it back as a show of good faith and explain to Logan why I was returning the money. He's bound to be upset because "a deal's a deal", and in the eyes of kids that matters a lot, but you want him to make honest deals too. And again, it would give the girl's parents a chance to talk to her about making deals and the value of money so that she can learn to make good choices.
I think you're handling it right Web. Does Logan know your plan? He should, it gives him a good idea of how to handle his own money. And by giving the money back to her parents, it's giving them a chance to teach her about the value of $10. Plus, where did she get the money from? I'm sure they didn't give it to her so she could buy 4 pieces of candy.
I agree with Ghost. Also, if I was the parent of the girl, I'd want to know. You were given the chance to do the right thing because you were informed; they should also be given that opportunity. And it doesn't hurt to let the kids know that their parents communicate with one another.
I think sometimes we take for granted that because we know things, the kids do too. Sometimes Mr. DS is so amazed at some of the "stupid" things that Jacob does; I have to gently remind Mr. DS that Jacob doesn't have any experiences to compare them to, and that Mr. DS wasn't born with his frontal lobe fully developed.
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Yeah, I don't know where she got the money. I can't imagine that her parents knew she was using it to buy four Jolly Roger candies.
We're thinking that we will let Logan keep the $10 but we will give the parents back another $10. I mean it's not like he cheated her, so we don't want to "punish" him by taking the money back from him, but yet it was not a fair deal and sometimes you have to help protect people from themselves.
I think Logan knows it wasn't a fair deal. He left the $10 bill laying on the kitchen table where any other money he's gotten immediately goes into his pritave stash in his room. It's not like him to leave "his" money laying out like that. That makes me wonder if he's feeling a little guilty about it.
Maybe y'all should ask Logan what he thinks about the situation. How he thinks it should be handled. Apparently, he's given it some thought because he left the money on the table. I would take it as a sign that he wants to talk about it, but doesn't know how to bring it up.
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That's probably a good idea. He and I talked a little when he showed me the money, but I wasn't sure what to do. I didn't want to take it from him until I thought it through myself. He might have thought about it some more now too.
That would be great if he decided that he knows it's not right and wants to give it back.
Morning all. I really get confused about the days and which one of them today is. It is raining, again. We had some mixed precip over night. I would like a nap.
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It's cold and windy so I decided to pick Logan up at school rather than having him walk the four blocks home.
On the way home, he was telling me that one of his friends got his Nintendo DS stolen at school. He said that the friend left the DS sitting somewhere and when he went back looking for it it was gone. He checked the office and it had not been turned in. We were talking about that and Logan said "if I found it and didn't know who's it was, I'd turn it in".
I used that as an intro to talk about the candy thing and he admitted that he didn't feel comfortable taking the girl's $10. I asked him what he thought should be done and he said "I think I'll give her the money back". I told him that mom and I were talking about it and thought maybe we should give her parents the money back tonight and he agreed that would be a good thing to do.
Good afternoon, all. It has been a busy day around here. Testing, testing, testing... Can't wait until all this is done. Then again, perhaps I can. My hopes that the India thing were not going to happen have been dashed. Seems that management has decided that if they can't come here to be trained, we will go there to train them. Boss told us to make Dr's appointments in the next month to get the regional appropriate shots and to get stocked up on malaria meds. Additionally, they are putting in for our visas.
Good job by Logan! Too bad he gave up his candies. Perhaps her parents will make her pay him back. Not that it is a big deal, but it is the principle of the thing. She should learn to accept that she doesn't always get to have her way.
Ghost... I hope it eases up for you soon. I'm in for a couple days of rain mixed with snow... but nothing like you are getting. I will have to turn on the furnace again tonight as it is supposed to get down to the low 30's.
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Good afternoon, all. It has been a busy day around here. Testing, testing, testing... Can't wait until all this is done. Then again, perhaps I can. My hopes that the India thing were not going to happen have been dashed. Seems that management has decided that if they can't come here to be trained, we will go there to train them. Boss told us to make Dr's appointments in the next month to get the regional appropriate shots and to get stocked up on malaria meds. Additionally, they are putting in for our visas.
