I hardly no where to begin. Court is going on without me. While enroute the school called and said my daughter was injured in PE. I hate it when everything seems to happen all at once and your life feels like it is spinning out of control and no matter what you do, it seems impossible to balance it again.
Maple: I hear you and feel for you. I was notified a few days ago that I am being let go on November 10th. Not a good thing. I don't want to lose the income.
Court today is a protection of assets. Long story short, I am worth nothing. Every penny I have is in trust for my kids and this court thing is to prevent someone that is trying to get money from me. My atty, is just demonstrating that I personally have no assets and everything is either in the name of the Trust or my failing company.
I also had a bit of a breakdown. Another very long story short. I mentioned and you may notice that the 'addition to the cp familiy' is no longer on the boards. I begged JR to delete it if it were possible. A few years ago, this young man was introduced to me. I took quite a liking to the boy and I think he did to me as well. I supported a number of his activities and sponsorships etc in school bought his clothes, paid his cell phone bill etc. Well, i was told he might be my biological son about a month ago. This is why even at 18 I wanted to adopt him. I hired a private investigator when I was given this bombshell; and was told yesterday, that he is not my son. I fell apart last night. I don't know if I am more upset that this game was being played on me, or that I no longer have a son that I truly have grown to love. He is absolutely innocent in this--
Yesterday as a precautionary measure my attorney advised that I make a disclosure of assets, because of a lawsuit against me for back support etc. Ugly (Does it feel like to anyone else that they are watching an episode of All My Children or General Hospital) All I can say is thank god for good attorneys and friend that adivsed I set up this trust years ago. Court today is to demonstrate that I have minimal control over the assets--and that it is being managed by the UBS firm.
I feel very embarassed about posting the picture and accepting your support etc. I was made a fool, and I really thought I was smarter than that. I cannot believe I was so stupid.
So, I am penniless, sonless, jobless, in court, and my business that I started is failing.
I apologize to you all--you were all so supportive and excited for me and it turns out it was not true.
My daughter is fine--she's resting in the other room.
May I thank you all for listening and beg your forgiveness as I am just one big fat sucker. Gonna go get some Jack.
Well, you are definitely not friendless, CP. I'm here for you and I know the rest of the people on the boards are here for you, too. I know you are going through a lot right now and I am praying for you. I don't know what else to say, but know that I care and will be here for you always.
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Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you do criticize them you will be a mile away and have their shoes.
CP - I am truly sorry that the sky seems to be falling right now. Know that we are here for you. I am also sorry that someone was apparently taking you and your generousity for granted. That is a shame that there are people in the world who would mess with a family in this way a put an innocent child in the middle. You will recover, one piece of your life at a time. Good luck.
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Stop trying to be what you see. Be what you ought to be.
CP, just because he's not your biological son doesn't mean he can't be your adoptive son. You don't necessarily have to adopt him in the legal sense, but being a father figure is more important than the technicalities of blood and paper. If you're devastated now, how will he feel when you are no longer there for him? Who cares who his real father is, here is the chance for some male bonding. This is a chance for you to spend time away from the work and worries that you have, and instead go golfing (or whatever else) with him.
Yes, some things suck in life, especially when it comes to finances (trust me, I know, my assets are less than my debt), but the old cliche is true, money isn't everything. Take the time that you have to and deal with the financial and job-related stuff, but don't let it take over your life.
Take a step back and think about the things that are important to you. In the big picture, is money really important? Is your job? Or are your family and friends the most important? Are you willing to give up someone you've come to love, but you can't forget about the business difficulties you're having?
Find a way to distance yourself from this world for a while. Learn to meditate, take a yoga class, or just write in a journal. Play a video game and imagine yourself as that character, that all that matters is the sword in your hand, the gold in your pocket, and the monster in front of you. Become immersed in a book; I suggest a fantasy novel, set in a different place and time where none of these real world problems exist. Do something to get away from it all mentally and emotionally, to clear your mind and start each day with a fresh slate.
CP, I'm glad your daughter is ok - that's one good thing.
It's not your fault that someone took advantage of you. It sounds like you did the right thing with the trust and all. That's another good thing.
You'll get through this. Just take it one step at a time. You're family loves you and that's worth more than anything else. Try as hard as you can to maintain your integrity as it will always win in the end.
Molly said everything I was thinking (thanks Molly!) CP, you know you have our support in anything you do! I've been in the gutter a few times but I've always bounced back, you will too. If there is ever anything I can do let me know!!!
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Sometimes, when i'm lonely... i crawl into a laundry basket and tickle my ears. But, Some times I don't...
Yes sir, ditto to everything above and then some. You are truly blessed to be given a chance to love someone. Do not walk away from that chance. I wonder if he knew any of this??? The mother that I speak of on the forum is not my real mom. My real mom died of cancer when I was 12. I was forunate to find the lady I now call mom. I spend every holiday with her and for the last 18 years she has been my mom. I only got 12 years with my real mother. No one even knows that I am not hers anymore, except her two real kids and my dad and brother, but even they appreciate the role she has played in my life. And now I get to reverse that and be there for her. And she really needs me now. So take this in stride with him. God places people in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Think hard where he might fit in.
Like Molly and Sparky said and I think I already told you I too have been way in the gutter. I think I found someplace even further down. But with my self confidence and the thought that I was raising a son alone, I picked myself up and moved on. I had some very hard times, but I made it through and I am so much better for it.
This too will pass, you just have to get through it. I know it is easier for me to say that. But I know better than most that it can happen. God will not put you someplace that you will not prosper.
We all love you and are here.
I bet a bottle of Jack and the counting thread will help with the free therapy!
