Good Friday to all. I know that I am glad that another long work week is about to come to a close. I'm looking forward to getting out of her early. I making dinner this evening and don't really want to be eating at 8pm. One more really, really bad week and then just two more bad weeks.
As I was making my way into work this morning speeding my way along (since there was very little traffic), it occurred to me that it was not the last week of March but the first week in April. My car inspection was due by 3/31. I knew this but kept forgetting to make an appointment. I do have one scheduled for tomorrow. Anyway, I decided I better take it easy because if for some reason I get pulled over, I can get nailed for not having a current inspection too. This also all occurred to me about ten minutes after I had seen my fourth state trooper out on patrol.
Ever since this woman moved to the desk next to me, it seems I have become her caretaker. She doesn't do technology too well. And this morning I had to help her with a tag in her shirt. I'm wondering if I should start a work babysitting service. It seems that I have to keep my eye on several people around here, mainly because they don't do their jobs so well.
Come on, let's get more work finished so we can go home early. Is it still considered leaving early if you surpassed 40 hours for the week yeterday afternoon?
__________________
Stop trying to be what you see. Be what you ought to be.
Fuzzy, you deserve a lot more than going home early.
I was reluctant to start a daily thread both yesterday and today because I've been in a bad mood. Will you be my support group for a minute?
We got new carpet downstairs yesterday. Since they normally put the carpet in empty apartments, we had to have all the furniture out of the way.
Brian got up with me, and before I got in the shower, we moved the couch into the kitchen. It wasn't fitting through the hallway like he expected, and he was getting mad at it. At one point, we were trying to get the couch around the corner and it wasn't fitting, so Brian got mad and just shoved it. But my hand was between the couch and the wall.
I told him to wait, but he was mad and not listening to me, so he shoved it again. That hurt more than the first time and I screamed, which got him to pull it back far enough that I could set it down for a minute.
He gave me a quick, "Sorry," and we finally got the couch in place. But he wasn't being any more careful, he was still mad at it, and I don't think he realized how much my hand hurt. My hand swelled up, but since I had to get in the shower for work, I didn't get a chance to ice it. It's mostly in the fleshy area between my thumb and forefinger, so I don't think anything is broken, although if I was holding the couch the slightest bit differently, it would've. I don't normally say that an apology wasn't good enough, but in this case, I really needed a sincere apology and didn't get one. But even more than that, he didn't settle down or be more careful with anything he was moving. I just felt like he didn't care, which hurt more than my hand does.
Then when I got home last night, he did genuinely say he was sorry and that he didn't realize how bad my hand was hurt. Everything was better.
He went up to soak in a bath, and I watched an episode of Doctor Who. I don't normally get teary-eyed over things on TV or movies, but there was a part that reminded me so much of Brian, and I was still pretty emotional anyway, that it brought me to tears. I posted it on Facebook: ["You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later they're as dull as a brick? Then there's other people, when you meet them you think, "Not bad. They're okay." And then you get to know them and... and their face just sort of becomes them. Like their personality's written all over it. And they just turn into something so beautiful." -Amy Pond from Doctor Who: The Girl Who Waited
Brian's the most beautiful man I ever met. ]
When he got out of the shower, I rewinded the episode to that point so he could see it. He said, "I don't get it."
I figured he just wasn't paying attention and didn't hear the whole thing, so I paraphrased and explained it. He said, "Yeah, so?"
Now I kind of regret that I ever shared it. I wonder if I'm being overly emotional, but I've had a night's sleep (albeit, not a great one), and I'm still a bit heartbroken by his reaction. Am I overreacting?
Mz, I saw that post last night. I remembered you had mentioned you were mad at Brian (I didn't know about what), so I was happy to see that things must have been better. I have to say I'm a little surprised he "don't get it", it seems pretty clear what it means . . . it's the inside that counts.
Are you being overly emotional about it? I can't say that. I'm still hung up on things that have been said to me over our mess that I should probably have let go of a long time ago. Sorry I don't have better advice. Emotions are what they are. They are not a choice. How we react to them is a choice, but we can't just say "I'm not going to feel this" and have them go away.
My wife decided to NOT take the job offer. She was still bothered by what all went down and felt they kind of threw her under the bus. She's afraid that they would do it again if they felt a need to do so. Also, she read about this position and it seems that the person holding the job can be held personally responsible if something goes wrong. She didn't want any kind of chance that they could come back at her legally for any reason. So, we move forward with her being unemployed. She's planning on taking a break for a while.
A few years ago she said "I will always need to work. I need the interactions with people. I would go insane being home alone all day." That was before FaceBook and before meeting her group of fellow Keith Urban worshipers. Now, she seems quite content to sit for hours and talk with her friends about how awesome Keith is. Time will tell if that will eventually get boring for her and she decides she needs people in real life again. Meanwhile, I will just do the best I can and be as productive as possible. Hopefully that will be enough to earn some respect back from her, but I'm not going to expect it. If that is not enough, I might have to consider doing something else.
My wife has said that she can't understand why I'm not career driven and job-focused like most men (and even she is). I don't know why. I just have never gotten my identity or my "worth" from the work I do. Work is work. My identity is the kind of person I am beyond that.
WebGuy wrote:Now, she seems quite content to sit for hours and talk with her friends about how awesome Keith is.
She won't have that when they are at work all day. She is going to have to make some chioces. I chose to look for a job, read, got back into playing soccer, rode my bike, got into better shape, started writing a book and did things around the house that didn't cost too much. I finally got three bathrooms and the two back bedrooms painted. I took advantage of running errands and doing grocery shopiing during the day when it was less crowded. I also needed a little structure. Now, perhaps it was a lot different for me because I was by myself. But there isn't a reason for her not to participate in chores or even have dinner ready at a reasonable time.
__________________
Stop trying to be what you see. Be what you ought to be.
Mz - Emotions are tricky and everybody is different. So sorry, I can't really help with that answer. I am glad Brian apologized properly. We've all been in that position where something isn't going the way we want and we get angry and frustrated. We also all know that it isn't going to do us any good to be angry but we take it out on the inanimate objects anyway. Unfortunately, that is when a lot of accidents happen. I know that I don't really know Brian, but from what you have told us, I take him to be a different kind of guy. I agree with Web and am surprise he didn't get it. Let's remember though, a lot of guys don't get it. It sounds like maybe he was still grumpy from the morning.
__________________
Stop trying to be what you see. Be what you ought to be.
Web, if it weren't for you, Mrs. Web wouldn't even have the choice of taking a break for a while. It'll give her a chance to de-stress a bit and do a bit of soul searching. Hopefully this will be the thing your marriage needs and she'll realize how good she has it. I wouldn't put too much stock in the Keith Urban fan group, she probably could've said the same thing about you and us in the FFR glory days.
Fuzzy, you're right, Brian is a different kind of guy. We've been married for over 8 years, and this is the first time he's ever reacted to something like that with indifference. I think that's what really hurt.
So I guess it's safe to assume that I'm going to have four private messages waiting for me forever now, huh? Stupid activeboard.
MZ, I'll just agree with everybody else here. That does not sound like the Brian that we've come to know, through you at all. Maybe he's just having an off week. As I read your story about playing the part from Dr. Who back for him I was almost certain I knew how it would end, but I was wrong.
Speaking of the FFR glory days, I really wish that we were in those days right now. My favorite part of those days, was the rants we would all have and today I would have several for you. In fact, I would love to be on-air going off on a few things right now.
I wouldn't put too much stock in the Keith Urban fan group, she probably could've said the same thing about you and us in the FFR glory days.
I didn't mean it like that . . . she knows I waste plenty of my time each day in various ways.
What I meant was when she said she would be too bored at home all the time, that was before she joined FaceBook. Now, with FaceBook (most of that spent with her KU group), being home isn't quite so boring.
So I guess it's safe to assume that I'm going to have four private messages waiting for me forever now, huh? Stupid activeboard.
I have the 4 new private messages notice too. It's annoying.
Jeremy Riggs wrote:
Speaking of the FFR glory days, I really wish that we were in those days right now. My favorite part of those days, was the rants we would all have and today I would have several for you. In fact, I would love to be on-air going off on a few things right now.
Hey MZ, I was finally able to get rid of the private message alert.
Go into private messages and select "unread". It'll bring up 4 pm's from over the past SEVEN YEARS that for some reason were reset to unread. Then you can mark them as read and the notice goes away.
It also led me on a two hour trip down memory lane, reading through PM's from 2004 to 2009!
I'm wondering if I should start a work babysitting service. It seems that I have to keep my eye on several people around here, mainly because they don't do their jobs so well.
