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CP · Lord of the Lair

Please tell me what you would do

Date: Fri Dec 9 19:21 2005

Sorry that you have so much pressure on you. Especially during this time of the year.

If I was your daughter I would want to know. I would want to find out from my parents instead of someone else. As long as you make them feel secure they will be ok. There is a right way to tell them. Search for words of comfort. I will pray for that.

Moving- how deep are the roots in CA? IF they are deep, do you have time to find a job? What is it in AK that would make you leave your girls?

CP · Lord of the Lair

My wifes family is here. I have time to find a job I guess, but am terrified to use the money set aside in savings.

Date: Fri Dec 9 19:29 2005

What is in Arkansas?

CP · Lord of the Lair

The nemisis: Wal-Mart.

MzHartz · Permanent Vacation

Yes, tell your girls. Don't decieve them.

No, don't move to Arkansas. Don't be bought out. You know if you go to work at WalMart you won't enjoy it, so what's the point?

jstdve · CEO - The KOTO Co.

I wouldn't tell the girls just yet. A job to an 8 year old is "were daddy goes all day, like school" so it probbly don't matter much in her world . A 13 year old girl is likely to get a complex , you know , 'friends and stuff and everything' ( she'll probly think boys will no longer like her cause her dad is outta work .) 13 year olds think kinda strange. I'd wait till I got a new job , then tell them.

If you know you can start a job at Walmart( or anywhere ) on Wednsday , you have Monday and Tuesday to look for better .

Arkansas - I know I've made fun of it ( who hasn't lol ) but truth is it's a growing place and I know they have at least 1 golf course cause I seen Bill playing there on the tv. Who knows , maybe you'll get there and fall into a hole and land on a treasure chest.

I think you should take a deep breath , exhale then relax a little , spend some time with the family ( good time of the year for that I hear ) and enjoy the golf err.. I mean holidays .

Zim · Chairwoman Of The Board

My parents protected my brother and I from a lot of the imperfections of their life. Consequently, my brother and I live our lives like we're expected to be perfect. Losing a job is not an option because it never happened to our parents.

Obviously you know your children better than anyone, and you know what they can and can't handle and at what age. But it's always good to remind the kids that the parents aren't perfect, that life isn't a bowl of cherries, but that the world doesn't come to an end, and you survive.

MzHartz · Permanent Vacation

I would also guess that the girls aren't dumb and will figure it out soon anyway.

I can understand taking the job in Arkansas, but it will be hard to be away from your family. How long would you be away? Would the plane tickets back home to visit be counterproductive?

thumperglh · Thumptastic: Chef of the Stars

I am really Sorry to hear about all this CP.

As for your daughters. I think the kids should know in a round about way that Daddy is looking for better than what he had. You dont have to come right out and tell them you lost your job but you may want to advise them that we will have to cut so of the "extras" that you were accustomed to.

As for Arkansas. Alot of people ( myself included) have made fun of the midwestern plains states like Arkansas and Kansas and Oklahoma. HOwever you are near some beautiful scenery and great places to visit and relax instead of just going there for Business and then leaving ( Dallas, Little Rock, Oklahoma City,Houston, St Louis,Kansas City. etc) but like everyone else I do agree that if you were to take a job at Wally World, would you be able to go and see your family when you could?

Does your family understand the situation? could they move to Arkansas with you temporairly?

Arkansas is a up and coming state. Little Rock is very interesting and quaint in its own way.

here is a website for you to look at to see if it would even be good for you? http://www.state.ar.us

Good Luck and I will be praying for you

Sparky · Phat Cat EL Presidente

I would wait at least until after the Holidays before I told them, Growing up my Dad went through a few jobs and it was always hard on me. I worried alot more than most kids my age, I guess thats why I felt the need to have my first job by 13.

Mad Mema · Bad Biker Granny

I would suggest waiting until after the holidays, then telling the kids. For the most part, kids are way smarter than we ever give them credit for. They will eventually figure out something is amiss. Better they have the truth to deal with than whatever they may make up in their own minds. They learn from you in everything you do, including how you handle adversity.

As for moving to Arkansas, that is a tough call. If the money is really that good and there isn't anything suitable where you are, then it may be the only option. If you elect to do that, then I would suggest talking it over with your family before deciding whether to bring them with you or not. It's a large decision, either way it will be a big adjustment for all of you. It would be better to get their buy in on whatever you do.

Dylan · Leader Of The Banned

CP, I think Mad Mema has the best all around approach....it is a family matter and since it will affect everyone, maybe they will have some input, or even some reassurance that will help your heart and mind in this matter.

I hope you can find some satisfactory resolution CP