My Dad was like that too Ruby.

We think he was in a lot more pain than he ever let on. And when he was hospitalized and we got to see him in a hospital gown it was obvious the cancer had been getting much worse than he ever shared with us.

I hate that.

Awhile ago my dad had prostate cancer and surgery and he never told me until a year later when the tests were all negative. I pitched a fit to them both. My step mom swore she would not do that again, but this round with the kidney transplant- they hid all kind of stuff. They did not know that his transplant coordinator and I were basketball mom's together and our kids were tight! I am sure she broke some rules, but she kept me up to date. I even told them afterward, but to no avail. I understand trying to protect your kids, but I would rather know what to pray for and just be prepared!