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Ruby · The Good Witch Of The South

Hi Darlene

darleneapd · Cuff 'Em N' Stuff 'Em

Hi Ruby:

Great new avatar, I like that snowglobe!!

Thanks for asking about me... things are fine. My daughter's grandpa died sunday, (My X father in law) so I took some of the day off from work on Wed and Thurs to attend the services with her.

It was so weird seeing the X husband though. Due to my daughter's age, I do not have to see him, she and he meet up without the help of me, so I don't need to have interaction with him.

And the hardest part of seeing him was seeing the "pain" and "grief" that the family was dealing with. And seeing my X husband's new WIFE, who was the person who he was sleeping with and having an affair with prior to the divorce.

He got caught, and I ended it w/ him, but he ended up marrying the woman!!!!!! So this past week was the first time I had dealings with her since the split.

She works with him, and I had remembered seeing her back in the married days when I used to visit my husband at his workplace!!!!! She worked the front counter!!

Anyway I vented, and everyone in his family (I was married 14 years) told me how happy they were to see me again. And they told me how much my X's father (who passed) had liked me.

I wonder what they think happened, or what they heard from him regarding why we split up. I really felt like asking, but I didn't.

I was actually shaking when I went through the "Receiving" line at the wake. The X whispered in my ear, "thanks for coming, my dad always liked you."...... then a few people down was his then mistress and now wife.. I just passed her w/ a nod, and said her name.... and continued down the line until I reached my daughter.

So now you have my long sorry of what is going on w/ me.... probably sorry you asked, huh Ruby???

allycat · Cat Scratch Diva

Darlene you must be a really strong person. I admire that you were strong enough for your daughter to go and be nice.

darleneapd · Cuff 'Em N' Stuff 'Em

Ally:

It took me to the last half hour of the wake to actually arrive and pay my respects. I had to keep telling myself to go. My daughter was there the whole 4 hours. I got there at 7:30PM and it ended at 8:00PM... but it was nice to see the "x's" family again. They were nice people, but it still baffles me, what do they know about the details surrounding the split up/divorce???, what excuse did the X give when he got caught and thrown out by me??????? I have always wanted to know what his side of the story was.

But overall it was nice to see my in-laws again. Even under the circumstances.

-- Edited by darleneapd at 10:51, 2006-07-07

allycat · Cat Scratch Diva

Even if you went the last 5 minutes it still shows character on your part. Maybe he was straight with them and told the truth. If they thought bad of you they might not have been glad to see you.

Ruby · The Good Witch Of The South

I did not mean to run off- but I am trying to get ready to have next week. I am so sorry to hear about that. What a dog your ex was- maybe he will do this to her too.

But I agree with Ally- I have to see my hubby's ex too much for my taste and I have a hard time being a Christian, but I was not in your situation. We met after they were divorced. So be proud of yourself, no matter how hard it was to go- you went! That shows your daughter a good example too.

How long have you two been split up? Does your daughter know the truth? I bet if she does, they do too!

darleneapd · Cuff 'Em N' Stuff 'Em

I found about her in the summer of 2001 and that day I asked him to leave. Then on 9/11, he called and wanted me back. It was the emotion of the kind of day it was. I had to say no, as much as that hurt!! I told him that if he broke it off w/ "her", I knew he'd see her at the job everyday, and that would be to hard for me. I thought the temptation of being around the mistress would just make him go back.

So at that point I knew it was officially over.

My daughter was almost 16 years old at the time. She knew what happened because I told everyone I knew about it.

But she still remains close to the X, and yes, she talks to and actually likes his wife. Even though she knows what she did. But my daughter also knows it takes 2 to tango, and both were at fault for the adultry. My daughter says, "As long as daddy is happy, I am happy too."

Molly · The Mediator

It sounds like your daughter has a good head on her shoulders.

Ruby · The Good Witch Of The South

Gosh, how rough. Sorry you had to go through that. I hope your new BF appreciates how strong you are!

And if he cheats on you- I know a few forum members that can take cared of him!