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JD The Jazz Doctor · Grand Poobah

Hi TG!

sgmorrell · Low in Fiber High in M-SG

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allycat · Cat Scratch Diva

Hi TG...we miss you...

Tennessee Gal · Chairwoman Of The Board

Hey Ally & JD. Sorry this is over a week late. I saw it at work the Friday before I headed out of town but wasn't able to respond while at work. I see you two are the only ones on line again this late Friday evening. I've been at Disney this week with my two s. The hubby was supposed to have gone but with things as they were, I traded his ticket in and took my parents instead. We had a good time and it was nice to get away. Now it's back to the real world....

Hubby is moving his things out tomorrow. He has gotten an apartment in Nashville. As you can tell by my late posting, this is hard for me. I'm just catching up on posts for the week until these darn sleeping pills kick in.

Would you guys please pass along to my forum friends to still keep me in their T&P. My prayers right now have been that God will open hubby's eyes to this terrible thing he is doing to our family and that he'll come home. The other half of my prayer is that if there is someone else causing this split that I will find out quickly so I can turn 100% one way or the other. I'm flip- flopping right now and it's driving me crazy. The only consistency between my prayers is that God move my kids and me in the direction that will be the best for us. He's always been there for us, I can't envision him leaving us now when we need him most. This truly is a "Footprints in the Sand" time for me.

Sorry to be such a downer tonight...

allycat · Cat Scratch Diva

Honey please dont ever feel like a downer...we are here for you. I am so sorry you are going through this if there is anything we can do to help you through this please dont hesitate to ask.

JD The Jazz Doctor · Grand Poobah

aw TG....sooo sorry to see you hurting here like this. I am so proud to say we've found a nice caring circle of folks here with open ears and open hearts. I am stunned at how wonderful folks here are....go ahead and get it all out here, voice it. Empathetic ears here. I'll attest its remarkably healing. Others will agree. Its like keeping a journal or a diary that you wouldn't mind others seeing...and you are not alone.

Tennessee Gal · Chairwoman Of The Board

Well, I got four hours of sleep. Guess that's better than none. Thought I'd come back on to wile away the rest of the night.

It is therapeutic to put one's feelings down on paper (screen). Friends and parents have been overly supportive down here, but it's nice to know that you guys are here to listen too.

Mad Mema · Bad Biker Granny

Hey TG! I definitely feel for you. When my husband took off on me, I knew things had been bad and neither of us were happy. I honestly didn't see the "other woman" deal coming. I never thought he'd do me like that. I wish I could tell you that finding out for sure that there is someone else makes it easier. In my case, it just made me angrier. Especially when I found out she had kids that he was hanging out with as opposed to helping me with his children and their problems. (I'm not the biological mother of my boys... they are his kids from his first marriage.)

At any rate, I'm definitely here for you.

pipsar6 · Chocolate Pip Cookie

Hi TG...it's a hard time, and we might not all have the right words to say...sometimes less is more... You will be in our thoughts and prayers though...rest assured of that and take something from that - that you have all sorts of people...on both sides of the Atlantic that are praying for you and your whole situation...and be assured - God will lead...His will, not ours....

Take care TN Gal

Tennessee Gal · Chairwoman Of The Board

Thanks Pipsar. Your words mean alot to me. Isn't it awesome to know we pray to the same God and live so far from each other. I feel more at peace knowing I've got prayers going out for me not only all over this country but across the Atlantic too. Thanks again!

Mema, I responded to you in the last forum post but feel the need to add more. I understand your anger about the other woman. To think my kids may have to eventually spend time w/ their father and some other woman makes me shudder. Cops aren't known for their fidelity but I just have the hardest time seeing him w/ someone else. His and my parents are about the only ones who think he is still faithful. The rest of my coworkers, friends, and cohorts think I'm being naive if I DON"T think there's someone else. I've told him repeatedly though since he left that I NEED to know if there is someone else so I'm not made any more of a fool than I already feel. Do you mind my asking, Did your husband admit to it or did you have to find out and confront him with evidence?

jstdve · CEO - The KOTO Co.

I'll cut the chase and get right to the scene.
Fk em , pile his crap by the curb , change the locks on the house and call an attorney.

You deserve better dontcha ?

disco strangler · Smiles everyone, smiles!

you know where we are if you're feeling blue. we're in your corner... <3

Mad Mema · Bad Biker Granny

Tennessee Gal wrote:

Mema, I responded to you in the last forum post but feel the need to add more. I understand your anger about the other woman. To think my kids may have to eventually spend time w/ their father and some other woman makes me shudder. Cops aren't known for their fidelity but I just have the hardest time seeing him w/ someone else. His and my parents are about the only ones who think he is still faithful. The rest of my coworkers, friends, and cohorts think I'm being naive if I DON"T think there's someone else. I've told him repeatedly though since he left that I NEED to know if there is someone else so I'm not made any more of a fool than I already feel. Do you mind my asking, Did your husband admit to it or did you have to find out and confront him with evidence?

In my situation, my husband repetitively assured me that there was no one else. He said he simply left because he felt that he was incapable of making me happy... in other words, for my own good. He even persuaded his younger son to go along with this story to "not hurt [my] feelings". I suspected that there was someone else, but didn't find out until I got a phone call from her late one night. She decided to call me and tell me about herself as she knew that Kevin had not. She was quite distraught as he had come home drunk and informed her that he still loved me and was intent on getting back together with me.

I had a very difficult time agreeing to try to work things out with him given his infidelity and his dishonesty about it. For the most part, the reason I'm trying is because of what this did to my family. Granted, my boys are adults and they have their own lives, but this was devastating to them. Chris was forced into a situation where he was lying to me. Jeremy was simply so disgusted with his father (and still is) that he would not (and still won't) speak to him. The relationship between Kevin and his sons was extremely damaged to begin with, so it took me a lot of years of working at them to get them on decent terms before this happened. Now, I'm concerned that he may have irretrieveably damaged his relationship with Jeremy, which will in turn damage his relationship with our grandson Walker. I don't want to see that happen.

Since we have been more or less back together and trying to work things out, things do seem to be improving at least with Chris. I hope that stays on track. As for me, I'm still working on my level of anger about this. Most days I'm okay. I find myself incredibly angry though when I'm randomly reminded about his infidelity. It doesn't really help that the people who work for us know about it, as does by now his entire family, my family, my friends, his friends... I pray every day for the peace and strength to make this work for me and for my family.

I truly wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do. There are no easy or painless decisions at this point.

Lady Strange · 80's Rock Chick

Oh man, TNG. So sorry to hear about this. I've been wondering how you've been, being as you can't post little messages in your requests these days. Wish there was something I could do to help. We're thinkg of you - Try & stay strong.